Am I a bad mom? Baby seems fine?

I don't believe in using pacifiers parents use them as baby plugs and he's chewing on his hands it's cause he's teething his gums hurt my son loves the teethers that go in fridge or buy them a gum stimulator or a wet wash rag ur not a bad mom but baby's cry for a reason that young my son crystal when he's tired I pat his bottom till he falls asleep his but its also good cause u don't want ur baby crying to be held when he does tummy time and crystal I lay on floor and play with him for a bit than when I get up he's fine for like half hour playing byhimself hope this helps

Bad? no. Unrealistic? Yes.

I assure you, a 3 1/2 month old didn't say "blue" or "hi". He may have made a noise that sounded like a word, but it was just a fluke. And letting such a young baby CIO isn't a good idea. He needs to know that someone will comfort him when he needs it. Leaving him alone to cry will not teach him anything and could result in an insecure baby.

People like to give their 2cents when it comes to babies. If you don't like what they have to say just smile, nod and ignore. But do keep an open mind. Not all advice is bad.

If I were you, I wouldn't let my 3 1/2 month old cry. They're still so little at that age. He needs your love and comfort. Allowing him to cry for ten minutes will soon turn into allowing him to cry all the time. If you research the effects on crying babies, it's not a good thing. It stresses them out. Comfort your little baby... he's still so young my goodness. As for the pacifiers, I never used them either. They can create a bad habit that;s only hard to break in the future. Maybe your baby is teething, let him gnaw on some teething rings or organic rubber toys.

It's adequate, breathe. You would not be the primary mother to make an oopsie and you will not be the final! Sure, you might have strapped him in...however you did not. Can't return in time and also you cannot difference it. He is first-rate, correct? Mommies make errors too. None people are ultimate. We simply study from our errors and preserve truckin. Babies are developed plenty more difficult than they appear and he would possibly not don't forget a darn factor while he will get older. He may have many extra bumps and bruises alongside the best way so get use to it hun! Don't beat your self up...it occurs. You obiously love your baby or you would not be so disillusioned approximately it and contact his health care provider. Cheer up and benefit from the well instances along with your child as a substitute than tear your self up over the unhealthy instances.

"My son is about 3 1/2 months old. He is developing great according to the doctors and in fact "advanced" because he can hold his head up when you are holding him and follow people walking in the room. He has said "Blue" plain as day and "Hi""

He is an absolutely normal 3.5mo and how nice that you caught some cute babble.

You will feel silly about the "blue and hi" bit when he does start talking... (Hint: he will say it more than just once, and it will be in context)

"Instead we just let him cry it out for ten minutes"

Well, yeah, you are a bad mother; what else do you want? Even pretty stupid people can figure out how to settle a baby, and what a lulz that, faced with crying from a very young baby, your response would be "Imma eff off for a smoke" or whatever instead of fixing the problem. You must know you can do better than that, that that's not what adult parents are doing?

A basic baby care book would not go amiss here.

If he liked the pacifiers let him have them. He is only 3 1/2 months he is old enough to let him cry it out yet. And if he is usually so happy he could have a bellyache. I let my daughter have a pacifier until her 3rd birthday. It was comforting for her. He needs to be calmed and soothed until he is a bit older. He is too little to understand letting him "cry it out"

@destiny

That is just wrong on so many levels

First do not over coddle your child. Self soothing is normal, recommended, and normal. Kids are like baby puppies in a way, they learn that they can get what they want by repeating actions. That is NOT TO SAY to ignore the child, check in on it, but you don't need to constantly validate the behavior by picking him up and cooing. Also he could possibly have acid reflux, DEF look into that. Also there is no reason to take away pacifiers. He is a baby that is what they do suck and cry. Give him back the pacifier and understand that no matter what you do he will cry, and cry a lot.

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Here is just one of THOUSANDS of links

http://www.babycenter.com/404_how-do-i-teach-my-ba...

just be like its my kid i can handle it by myself