I feel like a douchebag! Am I?

awww Your not a douchebag! once this guy asked me out last year and i turned him down, by making excuses. he asked me out again and i still turned him down. (he has gotten over me) hopefully but it wasn't the best idea. good thing you didn't do that! so there was this other guy asked me out once and i turned him down nicely. he seemed upset but he forgot about it so just be really nice to him. or try going with him somewhere else that you won't feel uncomfortable. maybe he is a really cool guy? i always act awkward around some people but not my friends. if they are friendly to me though then i will act normal. he is probably nervous. Your not the only one out there! your not a douchebag! good idea with the acting normal, he would feel more comfortable, you don't want to make him feel like he was rejected. Everyone feels bad rejecting other people, it's in our instincts that when a guy likes us we like them back or feel bad about rejecting them, so we won't loose our chance for survival or "future generations" so it's hard for most girls to turn down a guy. It felt terrible when i rejected some guys. I felt fake and mean, but you have to know that not all guys are fit for you.

Hope this makes you feel better :)

EDIT: if he tells you about killing himself, he is probably hurt but don't be with him, i have done that and it didn't end well, he would cry! like actually cry. He might try to make you feel bad etc. if he is crazy about you then go and tell someone they will help you. i told my friend, she then said it was unnatural and she told my counsellor said he needed help with his life. they helped him out. if he is going to kill him self for you then he is serious and he needs help. he was shy and it took a lot to ask you out twice so be nice. a lot of people go through this when they love someone which doesn't feel the same way about them. i do feel sorry for him too, i'm not saying be mean to him, just be really kind to him from now on.

You sound like a perfectly normal person. Obviously this boy has some problems. It's not like you MUST go with him to homecoming. But even though you don't like him, if he's threatened to kill himself then someone needs to be notified. Just because you don't like him doesn't mean that you can't be a friend to him. Good luck. You aren't a douchebag :p

No you aren't being a douchebag, being a douchebag would be pretending to have feeling for him. I had a guy in grades 7 and 8 have a huge crush on me and would ask me out and i kept on telling him no, i like you as a friend then he'd try to make me feel bad and so on.

That was a bit mean. Put yourself in his shoes. He's shy, so it obviously took a lot of courage to ask you out. Imaging practicing asking someone to a dance, then have them say they don't feel like going with you. I'm not saying you should have said yes, I'm only saying you should have used some tact when you said no.

Yup, that was one hell of a douchebag response.

You could have very politely said, "I'm not going to homecoming with anyone this year" with a smile, or "I'm already going with someone else", or "Me and a friend are going together."

"I don't really feel like going to homecoming with you" - WHAT A *****.

I wouldn't think so, but you said "if I wasn't held hostage to say it by my friend". Are you two deliberately trying to hurt his feelings, and take pleasure in it, when you suddenly feel slightly guilty over antagonizing someone who is already miserable?

I'm not trying to be too hard on you, but try not to listen to your friends if it means making fun of someone who is already seriously depressed.

You're a terrible person. He will most likely follow through on his threats and end his miserable life, because to him it'll be a release from all the pain. Pain that you have caused him. YOU. He offered you his heart and you merely smirked in disgust as you cruelly denied him everything he has ever desired. You took that heart that he offered you and crushed it and ground it into a million pieces. When he finally ends his life, you will be the only person to blame.