what do you think..is this kind of like porn to him or no? Should i be worried?

Let it go. There is no harm in looking and getting a chuckle.

I don't know if I would be worried about it too much. For one thing, and I don't know where you live, but where I live, alot of the CL ads are fake. Either they're men pretending to be women or a woman pretending to be different than what she actually is or total scams. So, I can see how someone would get some humor out of it.

However, a couple years ago, before the ads were fake, my husband and I (swingers) met quite a few people off that site, so its quite possible your husband could be just looking around to see whats out there. Not out of interest but out of curiousity and boredom. What stands out to me is that he said he wouldn't go into that section but did it anyway. If he wasn't doing anything wrong, and especially since you have no issues with porn, he could've very well been like, "honey, relax. its no big deal." And he could've very well have occasionally checked it out.

I could understand him just looking for a laugh, but the fact that he told you he wouldn't look anymore but then you caught him looking a SECOND time would definitely have me worried. He should respect your wishes in this matter and not try to do it behind your back.

I would be worried as well, since it does give him the opportunity to cheat. I don't know what advice to give you about it though. Talking to him apparently hasn't helped because he's still looking at it. Tell him that it makes you afraid he's going to cheat on you and it scares you, that it's nothing against him. If he realizes you're only angry because it's worrying you he should be nice enough to stop, because it's just hurting the relationship and getting a laugh out of it isn't worth the issues it's causing.

I am a big porn supporter, but this behavior does push it a bit. I mean, these are people who WANT to be contacted. If I watch porn, there is absolutely no way I could contact a porn star, no matter how badly I wanted to, which provides a level of safety. But getting a Craigslist poster's phone number can be just one single email away. I don't blame you for not liking it.

I think this is a step further than porn. I would view this as looking at a dating site for people looking at sex. If he was on a dating site for 'casual encounters' what would your reaction be? He is looking at photos of women looking for sex from men. Porn is pictures of women that are paid for the pictures and the sole purpose is to arouse men - not to entice them to actually have sex w/ the woman in the photo. Totally different to me. I would worry and I would not let it go. There's plenty of porn on the internet if he wants porn. CL 'casual encounters' is not porn, it's a step further. IMO

Sweetheart, I hate to say it, but the fact he promised not to look and yet did, brings up trust issues and he is breaking that and especially in his own area.

How to deal with it is this: do not get angry; just show him what he has right in front of him ie YOU!

Half the time, we are so busy feeling offended, we forget that they chose us, so be sexy with him and he won't be thinking of it for a while and if he does then you have to say that makes you very uncomfortable and if he wants to be in this marriage, then he will respect that you do not share his view of this material.

He is just probably curious at things never before heard or seen of as in curiousity kill the poor cat. Like I said before in the other questions, there are far more better things in life than just hot sex alone.

I do the same thing. It is kind of like porn and honestly, there's nothing to worry about.

That section IS funny....but he could be looking for someone that takes it in the backdoor and swallows.

Just sayin'.