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Some words of wisdom regarding death please?

First off, I just would like to say that I do know for certain that I need to talk to a professional about this. I am pretty sure that normol people do not feel this way.

I have an irrational fear of people around me dying. Thoughts of a member of my family or my lovely boyfriend dying plauge me and I have anxiety surrounding these thoughts probably 4 times a week or so, at any and all all hours. If I get a phone call from someone at an odd time the first thought through my head is, "o my god, they must be calling me with bad news." I am 25 and I don't understand it because I have not grown up with a large amount of death or loss around me. I am very aware of the fragility of life at all times. For example, my boyfriend went on a camping/hunting trip with my father this weekend and in the days leading up to this I had thoughts of them dying on the highway up there, they will be returning tomorrow and I now have an fear of something happening on the way back. I should mention that in the back of my mind, the whole time I am thinking of how irrational I am. I cam bring myself to tears at thoughts like this.

When I am faced with death I am inconsolable. Last example that I can recall is my cat from childhood died about 2 months ago. I was unable to stop myself from crying and the thoughts going through my head were partly of mourning the cat and partly mourning the nostalgic memories of their farm, never to be the same again with her gone.

So...now I am coming to the question part. As mentioned, I do know

that I should speak to a person who is trained to deal with thoughts such as mine.I suppose what I am wondering is...how off base am I, is everyone else in fear too? Does anyone have something encouraging to say to me in the meantime?

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  • 10 years ago
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    Death is an inevitability of life, and all of us must come to terms with that in our own way. Many of us have significant fears of death; it is the great unknown. I used to fear death, but through deep self-exploration and a total willingness to be open to everything, "good or "bad", I have come to a peace about the whole matter. You may want to seek out the help of a hypnotherapist; they are particularly good at helping people come to terms with death anxiety. Also, an existential counselor/psychologist would be a good choice. The following are some quotes that have helped me come to terms with death. I wish you the best.

    Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers the o’erfraught heart and bids it break.

    -William Shakespeare

    The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.

    - Mark Twain

    I do not fear death. I had been dead for billions and billions of years before I was born, and had not suffered the slightest inconvenience from it.

    -Mark Twain

    Source(s): Living life.
  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Welp, everyone is afraid of death in some way or another. That's just human nature.

    As for words of encouragement, just know that death is an inevitability. There is no stopping it. One can die at anytime, whether it be in some place in the woods or in their own bed. So why freak out about it, you know?

    I've seen some of my family members be reduced to living skeletons because of cancer, that ish spreads like wildfire in my family, one of which was my uncle. He was a grumpy, yet cool type of guy. The type who would joke around with a frown on his face and he was just so full of energy. Five years or so later, and he's lying down on a hospital bed, connected to a respirator and he was so skinny that there was a huge fold of skin hanging off of his neck bone.

    Such a fate can happen to anyone and you yourself know how fragile life is. So, the best we can do is just to love our loved ones while they're still here, hell, while we're still here. Before the trigger happy son of a gun known as the Grim Reaper comes to take them home.

  • jurgen
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    Death is the 1st step,the beginning of the journey into a new and perpetual life. Whether one will lead a happy or miserable life is of a different matter.

    But, death bring us fear because of the uncertainty in our thought regarding life in the hereafter.

    Constant death around us would remind us that ours are always round the corner.The most important thing to know is what is require of us to take along as provisions for the long journey so that we may not suffer therein.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Do everything the correct way first and be over careful like testing water religiously every week and do everything by the book until you are experienced enough to know what can slide and what can't. You will get to a point where you can make you're own decisions based on your own experience, conclusions, and common sense rather than rely on advice from 'fish experts'. And yes: research, research, research!

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  • ?
    Lv 5
    10 years ago

    One day with God is like a thousand years on earth! Your fear of death is understandable but, not necessary! When we die as Christians it's just the beginning of a new spiritual life! your loved ones will be in a much better place than earth. Imagine no pain, no hunger, and you 'll be in the presence of God! Do not be sad but rejoice for you will be in the kingdom of heaven! Amen!

  • Umie
    Lv 6
    10 years ago

    Take no thought for the morrow for the morrow will take care of its self .

    Try to visualize some beautiful place you have experienced or some event.

    Find a quiet place and close your eyes and relive the place or event in your mind,feel it and sense it for what it is. It will quiet your mind.It will create stillness in my mind. Try it and see if what i suggest is true

    for you. You need to make the effort and all i can say is it works for me very often and stills my mind and gives me a sense of quiet.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    Do you know that you are describing one of the symptoms of a person who is bi polar? When I take my meds/herbs for my hormonal imbalance, they take that fear from me. I am bi polar. Bi polar is an imbalance of your hormones in your body. It messes with your emotions and state of mind. You can get some herbs that will help with that. St John's wort is a good one for leveling you out emotionally. so is valerian root. Can't hurt to give it a try.

  • 10 years ago

    You'd be the ultimate clingy girlfriend. But if it's just the way you are, oh well. Probably just a phase anyway, and you'll most likely evolve beyond it.

  • 10 years ago

    you are reaching the age where you are facing your own mortality, no longer the immortal youth with no thought of the future ...

    you may never get over the losses that you will suffer (i have lost more pets than i can count, and i miss them all), but you will eventually come to terms with it ...

    honestly, you have no real choice ...

  • 10 years ago

    Death is inevitable and fearing the inevitable is an erroneous waste of time.

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