How much damage have i ?AND what can i do to rectify it and make him chase me again?

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So my ex and i broke up 4 moths ago.After we broke up i made a huge mistake and bombarded him with texts and calls.İ stopped this about 4 weeks ago when i finally came to my senses.The reason i acted this way was that i was incredibly hurt at the way he could just walk out of my life and i already knew how much he hated people texting him and as childish as it sounds at the time it seemed like the only way i could get back at him.İ wasn't thinking clearly.The thing is i still have feelings for him.He is 34 im 22.So last night i thought i saw someone that looked a lot like him and sent him this text " was that u?" he didn't answer to which i sent him one last text saying "i guess my mind was playing dirty tricks on me;) Have fun tonight=)" How much damage have i done?He hasn't answered either text?How do i get him back?Should i send him something else?Call him?
ps:İt turned out that the man i saw wasn't him, i doubled back to take another look at the man last night.But by the time i realized this i had already sent him the first text.İ realize how i acted was childish, stupid and did nothing but push him further away.The problem is i still have deep feelings for him and if he can get passed the way i acted and spends time with me im pretty sure that he will realize he still has feelings for me.İf i stop texting him then i will not have a single chance of getting him back.This may sound childish but what if i started to hang around the places he does with better looking guys then him, or slept with his best friend??Something like that to get him jelous.Do you think that would work?

Liza · Accepted Answer

A man would turn his world upside down to be with the girl he wants. He doesn't even bother replying to your text or make a call. Forget about him. Don't text, don't call, don't apologize, don't try to meet him, don't try to do anything with, to, or for him. He is out of your life. You're hurt? That's part of love life. Fine, time heals. Move on.

? · Answer

Your 22? It is time to grow up! I don't want to sound mean,but you sound like a teenage girl. He has obviously moved on, the bombarding him with text messages probably verifies in his mind that he made the right decision. At 34 he is probably looking for someone more mature and your acting childish is not going to help. Hanging around at places he goes or "sleeping" with his best friend won't win you anything but more regret and heart ache. Cut your loses, gain some maturity and self esteem, soon enough you will find someone who is perfect for you.

BeautyBlitz · Answer

Doing stupid things to make someone jealous is a HORRIBLE idea...heck...it doesn't even work in Hollywood.

Ever read the book..."He's just not that into you."

How about calling him and apologizing for bombarding him with texts and being immature.  Explain that you were really hurt and didn't handle it well.  Don't make things worse by acting like you're in high school.  He's 34...he has no time for childish games.

star · Answer

if u set him free and he comes back then u kno hes urs. if u stop chasin him maybe he will start wonderin wat ur doin now. dont sleep wit his friend, that is something u will never be able to go back from and disrespectful to urself. if u cant help textin jus keep them short and rare. u say the only way to get him back is to text him all the time but if he wants to be back wit u he will find u. plus he needs to think without u texting. suggest stop then maybe he will realise. if not then he is not for u. jus try and get on with ur own life pls.

jude · Answer

stop chasing, just makes you appear needy and desperate. the only thing that would work is for him to see you differently, like more mature, in control of your emotions. right now he is trying to avoid you and for now you need to accept it and go on with life.

Anonymous · Answer

if he walked out of your life why do you still want this man?

stupid people!

Don't even contact him, move on!

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