Ladies will i seem to be very desperate and stupid to send this to a woman.?

HERES THE BEST ANSWER (im going to be a clinical psychologist, i was a pickup artist when i was younger, ive had sex with over 40 girls, and i have the flu thats why im bored and on here)... listen up:

When your shooting a basketball at a hoop, do you just throw balls wildly, hoping one goes in? No! If your by yourself, you'll look like an autistic kid, and if your in a 5 on 5 game, they'll either beat you up or kick you out.

Instead, what you do is you shoot RIGHT. You place your feet a certain way, you jump using the hips, you bring your arms up together, one to shoot and one hand to guide. Then you release and follow thru, flicking the wrist in a robotic motion, the same way every time. You watch the hoop and see the ball thru the hoop.

The point here is:

THERES A RIGHT WAY TO GET GIRLS (AND MOST ALL GIRLS THINK BASICALLY THE SAME WAY, IN TERMS OF INSTINCTS) AND THERES A WRONG WAY TO GET GIRLS.

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Your way is the wrong way. You are appearing needy and desperate and 99% of the time this will creep out women. Even women who are desperate for a man might even say no! she might think shes gonna get PHYSICALLY HARMED seeing you, or you might rape her or something. Trust me. its always better to appear too UNINTERSTED and TOO GOOD FOR HER than the other way around.

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however, appearing uninterested and too good for her and confident and BUSY and all of that is good, sure- HOWEVER if you were to do that, you WOULDNT HIT HER UP AT ALL.

so you need a LITTLE BIT OF A BALANCE.

you need to hit her up- which shows interest- but you need to balance it out a little bit to appear attractive and non-needy and confident and NORMAL and ALPHA MALE. seem like you get women al the time and your not desperate.

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Here's what you could say to her (an example). But basically, the idea is to BE FUNNY and KEEP IT LIGHT and DONT SEEM TO CARE WHAT SHE THINKS and JUST SEEM LIKE YOU SENT IT SPUR OF THE MOMENT. If it looks PLANNED, it looks CREEPY.

Heres an example of a good message, where you took something from you guys past that was funny and hit her up about it.

(supposing she was a girl that always used to play tricks on people and f*ck with the teacher and stuff)

"hey soooo i was checking my messages, and this pop-up reminded me of you. Exhibit A? It was dennis the menace. Exhibit B? He was peeing on his homework. Exhibit C? He was getting a sick pleasure out of it. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you.. dont get too excited :)"

this is attractive cuz:

1- it displays alot of humor

2- the 3 exhibits get her laughing and get her ON A ROLL of continuous laughter

3- once shes laughing and attracted to your personality, esp after exhibit C, she will see that your thinking of her... and SINCE SHES NOW ATTRACTED TO YOU, she will BE FLATTERED AND HAPPY your thinking of her (as opposed to weirded out if she WASNT attracted to you at the moment..).

4- you tease her about her being excited that you thought about her, which makes her excited (descartes, i am what i am, the law of congruency in psychology) AND it makes her see you as A HIGH VALUE ALPHA MALE WHOS USED TO WOMEN LIKING YOU- which is attractive.

5- you MAKE HER JEALOUS (your getting messages from women) and it shows you are PRESELECTED AND POPULAR

6- it makes you look BUSY

7- you have a GENUINE REASON FOR HITTING HER UP. you didnt creepily think to do it. you just *SAW* the popup, THOUGHT OF HER INSTANTLY, and then as a spur of the moment, you JUST HIT HER UP THAT INSTANT.

its attractive to a woman. its like destiny, or fate. they LOVE IT.

if i were you, id just send this exact message to as many girls as possible, except switch up the exhibits with funny examples of who they would be/emulate.

if its a nerdy girl? pick a nerdy character.

if its a person whos a known liar or car salesman? pick pinocchio

just make the humor FUNNY not MEAN cuz if its MEAN then they wont be attracted theyll be offended, there is a big difference, although sometimes the line CAN be blurred

Well I don't think that you should send an e-mail that blunt after not talking to her for around 3 years. I can't really tell if it is desperate sounding, I really don't think so because you are not really asking her for anything and to me it doesn't sound stupid because you are just telling her something you have been wanting to. but before you tell her that you could never forget her you should send an e-mail that says something about striking up friendship again or meeting up. Once the relationship has progressed some, then would be a better time to tell her what is on your mind. You don't have to take my advice but I thought I should put it out there :) hope I helped!

I'm actually in the same boat! I had a crush in 2002. He didn't pick up my hints that I was interested and eventually I got married to another guy. 9 years later, I'm a single mother of two living in CA. I searched for him, with no luck. Then one day, he contacts me and we reconnect. The second time I saw him, we went to a hotel and got intimate. A month later we met again for round 2, but this time, at the end, he tells me that there is this girl, who I think he made up b/c he told me a week later, that it wasn't going to work out and that he's trying to deny emotional attachment to me. It's been 3 weeks since I've talked with him. And he's been ignoring my texts, so to answer your question, I think you'd sound desperate and it would be best for you to move on and look for someone else before you get hurt!

ok take my advice, esp since I'm a girl. Not being sexist here, but we can relate more.

I can see this in 2 perspectives.

1) sweet because after all those years u still liked her!

2) creepy if you didn't know each other very well, but u liked her nonetheless. And up til now u still like her. Maybe she forgot about u and when she gets that email, she won't know who u r, and think ur a creep

I agree with some people above.

Go for it what do you have to lose?

It would definitely be better if you can send an email asking if you two can hang out together. Then tell her how you feel. Be romantic with it compliment her.

Is ok.. im a girl i had a crush i still do for this guy for 4 years. No biggy just talk to her tell her whats up with her get to know her dont jump to feelings pretend shes a new girl your talking to.

If you were never that close then probably not..

You could start smiling her then after a couple weeks of getting to know her and responding to her quickly, you will have enough of a relationship where that doesn't sound creepy. Start out with something nice, work your way up to that.

Please answer my question:

http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Al...

if things didnt work out, and you havent seen/talked in 3 years, she probably moved on. sorry. and yes, it will make you seem desperate and stupid.

Just say, "meeting you was the best day of my life, and i will never forget about you" something cute and sweet! thats so romantic :)

good luck

Honestly if you haven't got over her after three years I'd be banging down her door and telling her how I feel.