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I kinda have a crush on my guy friend, BUT...?

My brother said that he is '******'s property' (didn't want to give out the name, so i used the *'s) and he told me to leave him alone. I do notice that he has alot of friends that are girls and last year he went to prom with the girl mentioned above. Should I take my brother's advice and stop having a crush on him?

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  • 10 years ago
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    You can't stop having a crush on a guy. You can't control your own emotions. Yes, you can ignore him or do some other stuff but still you can't force yourself to move on. But here are a few steps about thinking and analyzing more about your crush and your feelings:

    Examine why the crush is a bad idea.

    It's often tough to pull away from that feeling you're having, but it is possible. It's also necessary for your mental health.

    Try to minimize contact with your crush.

    Keep in mind, if you are madly and hopelessly in love/lust, be patient. Don't be too clingy, but continue on as normal, being your wonderful self and show him/her how awesome you are. He/She might just realize one day that they have been blind this whole time and confess their love; after all, love is just friendship on fire.

    Be honest. Tell them how you feel. If you find out that he or she doesn't have any feelings for you, it will be easier for you to get over it.

    Maintain some type of distance. While being close to someone may stir emotions, avoiding someone who is regularly seen definitely will. If the person is close, either request "space" or continue normal activities. If the person is not, keep a distance, but not a "duck-and-cover" type of avoidance.

    Focus on your other interests. Consider other boys/girls, and yes, there are others out there. Try to remind yourself of this any time you start to think of him/her.

    Try to think about and focus on his/her flaws. Begin to notice others, and things that are better about them than your crush.

    Convince yourself that you can do so much better than him/her.

    Last, Accept! Always remember that the toughest part will be to observe your best friend be normal around you while you could struggle to do so. There is no way around it but to accept that everything cannot possibly be reciprocated.

  • 10 years ago

    you should first try to find out the truth... ask in casual way bout the girl from that guy.... if he's ur good frnd he'll tell u..... and dont feel shy to express ur feelings if u feel that there's a chance of reciprocation

  • 10 years ago

    You should keep talking to him, but if something happens between him and **** then let it be, don't try to steal him from her. Good luck!

    Source(s): Personal experience
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