should you divorce a man who lusts after other women?

1. [Fornication: An “unmarried" man or woman who engages in sexual relations with another, whether that other person is married or not.]

2. [Adultery: A "married" man or woman who engages in sexual relations with another, whether that other person is married or not.]

3. [Lasciviousness = without natural affection = sexual immorality: Bestiality necrophilia, incest, rape, homosexuality, transsexualism, group sex [revellings = raves], sexual gratification with non-living objects, adultery, fornication, provocative attire, prostitution, etc.,]

King James Version Bible

1 Peter Chapter 2

11. Dearly beloved, I beseech [you] as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;

Jeremiah Chapter 17

9. The heart [is] deceitful above all [things], and desperately wicked: who can know it?

Mark Chapter 7

21. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders,

22. Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness:

23. All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.

1 Timothy Chapter 4

1. Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

3. Forbidding to marry, [and commanding] to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.

Luke Chapter 23

29. For, behold, the days are coming, in the which they shall say, Blessed [are] the barren, and the wombs that never bare, and the paps which never gave suck.

2 Timothy Chapter 3

1. This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

2. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

3. Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

4. Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

5. Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

6. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

7. Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

Matthew Chapter 5

27. Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:

28. But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

Luke Chapter 16

18. Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from [her] husband committeth adultery.

John Chapter 4

16. Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy husband, and come hither.

17. The woman answered and said, I have no husband. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no husband:

18. For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly.

Galatians Chapter 5

19. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are [these]; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

20. Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

21. Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told [you] in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Jeremiah Chapter 17

10. I the LORD search the heart, [I] try the reins, even to give every man according to his ways, [and] according to the fruit of his doings.

Ecclesiastes Chapter 8

11. Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.

What matters is how *I* feel about my partner's behavior...not what some book says...

Most people "lust" at some point...that's not a crime...

However, if I were with someone and they were lying, joining dating sites, and claiming they were widowed, I'd happily make sure they became single...lying isn't cheating...joining a dating site isn't cheating (unless you go on a date because of it)...but those things aren't acceptable and I wouldn't stay with someone like that...

It doesn't matter if people don't "believe in" divorce...it exists...their lack of belief doesn't change the fact that nearly half the marriages in the US country end in divorce...we might not like divorce, but it's stupid to say one doesn't "believe in" it...it's real...

If my spouse did those things but didn't want divorce, that would be too bad...it only takes 1 person in a marriage to take the steps to get a divorce..I sure wouldn't waste any more time with a loser like you describe,,,

I was going to say "No", but then I read more than the title to your question.

The Bible doesn't have a verse on internet-whoredom, but I'd be willing to bet most theologians would conclude that he is far from faithful.

Seems like he's using your belief against you by citing the Bible as just reason to continue to breach fidelity.

Fidelity is more than just physical contact. A simple meal can be intensly intimate.

Guilt is in the pleasure and motivation of these encounters, albeit thrid hand online.

Also, what are your boundaries.

The bible states that we are as equals, not a master and wife.

The two of you as individuals come together to create a unity of one, and that means you both have to be aware of and respect one anothers boundaries.

These vary from relationship to relationship...but what and where are your boundaries?

I'd loose the dead-weight, work on myself and seek another husband worthy of your devotion.

My husband did on line stuff and it made me very sad, but we are still married, because I think he was doing that to boost his own ego. He is a weak spiritual person, and I have to love him for other reasons. U just have to access your own situation and what U will loose or gain. A man who does this sort of thing has issues of his own and is a hollow man inside. If he says he does not want a divorce then ask him what he does want out of life? Good luck.

I agree with RuthAnn. My husband did this 4 times I know of, Im sure theres more. He has a terrible self esteem issue and says he needs to flirt with other women to make sure hes still wanted. Blah blah blah. his saying he doesnt believe in divorce is just crap, hes only saying that because he wants his cake and to eat it too. meaning he wants to keep you as a wife and do his dirty stuff on the side. he cant have it both ways, give him an ultimatum.

It's not cheating, per se, but it is unethical and not the kind of behavior you would want in a spouse. I would suggest leaving, regardless of his views on divorce - it sounds like he's off in his own world now anyway.

there is not any protection certain till the two are fairly in love and lust for intercourse ( sexlust has no potential over any of them. no longer a lot of human beings have this potential of character. Esp while the two grow previous.

Yes to the divorce, unless you love being miserable. Think about your marriage vows. Those words applied to both of you, not just to you.

Yes, I would dump his butt as soon as I read that he was a widow. Let him see what it feels like to be alone. You deserve better.

Send him my way. Married men are great in bed.