The girl I've been seeing 4 weeks plans on getting intimate on the next date. How do I mix in the shocker?

NO FREAKING WAY! Stay away from here. Email me your address. I will mail you a purity ring to protect you against such dirty and evil acts.

Ohhhhhh. I though you wanted to mix in the "shocker" (you know, 2 in the pink and 1 in the stink ; ) ) while getting intimate! I was going to tell you to just dive right in and go for it, but I clearly should not be answering this question.

Though ILFy's idea is excellent (and deserving of BA, I might add), there is the very slightest chance that she will react negatively to that approach. Especially if she is overly sensitive or has "issues"--and hey, who among us doesn't, amirite?

So instead, let her down easy. Tell her how hideous the drapes are. Then start looking up new designs for her online. She'll figure it out soon enough, and will just assume that you're in denial.

The real question is why are you leading on a girl for four weeks if your batting for the other team?

I would keep it to myself for a little while. Let her wonder why you can't get it up for a few dates before you break the news. She'll think it's a hilarious prank!

You are mean. Why would you take a month out of her life?

that was really mean to do her like that... but to difuse the whole situation DONT BLURT IT OUT WHEN SHE TRIES TO KISS YOU... that would be creul... ummm sit her down in a publick place and tell her!

Tell her now . She is going to be heart broken. Email me ;) ddirtywhite@yahoo.com

Say, "I'm a fan of Tim Tebow!"

She will get the point.

If you're gay, why have you been seeing her for a month? Are you bi?