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How long should I ask her to wait before replying to my coming-out letter?
I'm coming out to my mom via letter. I'm about 95% certain I'm going to send it next thursday, but at the end, I ask her to wait ____ amount of time__ before contacting me.
My mom is going to be beyond upset and angry. (I'm sending it out when I am because I won't be in the same state after the 19th ; I'm spending thanksgiving with my dad. )
-My mom is VERY conservative politically and religiously. ( Example: They believe clapping or raising your hands while singing in church is wrong, and that if you don't dress in your "Sunday Best" it's wrong. )
-VERY set on her opinions
So...I'm asking her to wait a while before she replies in hopes that she'll be able to calm down and talk to me more rationally...(hopefully) . But I'm wondering just how long should I ask her to wait? 1 day? 3 days? a week?....
4 Answers
- MzCalypsoLv 710 years agoFavorite Answer
LOL!
GREAT strategy.
Are you out to your dad? If so, you'd better explain to him what's going on with the letter. If not, I suggest you come out as soon as you arrive. and then warn him!
And have a plan B in place -- as in, what are you going to do if your mother doesn't want you to come home, or decides to send you to an anti-gay camp? Seriously, make sure you have some sort of escape strategy. Religious people can be utterly inhuman even to their own kids when they have a religious hair up their @ss. Is there a friend you could stay with between Thanksgiving and the end of the term?
If you have any beloved pets, let them stay with a friend. If you have prized possessions, take them with you. People sometimes displace their anger in inappropriate ways.
Good luck!
- Anonymous10 years ago
Until she's ready to have a mature reasonable discussion. And is willing to hear you out. But if you wanted a set date, I'd say a week or two.
- ஜMallymkunஜLv 610 years ago
It wont matter how long you ask her to wait before replying. She's the mom and if she is anything like the moms I know, she will call you immediately.
Angry or not...upset or not...disappointed or not...you are still her child and though she might not like who/what you are she will always love you.
Everything is going to be fine. You watch and see.
