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partners parents are EVIL help!!?

Me and my partner have been together for 7 years nearly and I don't think I can cope any more. We live with his parents and at first when I moved in everything was fine until they started to show their true colours. They always seem to have no money and always rely on us to give them money, I had to buy them an £800 cooker out of my catalogue as theirs had broke which I had no problem with at first as they offered to pay me every month for it, which never happened because after the first month they reckoned they couldn't afford it so I had to foot the bill of £60 per month to pay it as other wise I would have ended up in debt. Then the shower broke, so of course the same thing happened again and as they have got me over a barrel, I have to pay it. I then paid £500 of mortgage arrears off for them along with other bits and pieces that all amounted to around £1000 when I got some inheritance money for my last birthday as a gesture to help them out. However despite all this and countless other things I have bought and helped them with they seem to think I'm just some c*nt. They slag me off to my boyfriend, and when we have an argument it can never be just between us two it involves them every single time because they stick the knife in and cleverly tell my bf what he wabts to hear, they gather ammunition over the weeks such as hw long I had left my things in the tumble dryer, and when I didn't buy milk and bring it all up when we argue which of course riles my partner even more and we have an even bigger argument. The biggest blow came however, when they used my ebay account to buy something, looked on their bank statements to see something had gone out for ebay at £13, allegedly "forgot" they bought something, and when our next argument came, told my boyfriend that I was a theif and I had stolen the money to buy something on ebay and hoped they wouldn't notice!!! And of course because my bf was already p*ssed at me decided to have a go at me, I just couldn't believe it. I am not close to any of my family and don't really have anyone to talk to about my troubles and I feel so alone sometimes because I have no one for advice. Do you think that our 7 year relationship is worth holding on to when this is always happening? I am trying do hard to move out but me and my partner just simply can't afford it but I don't know if I can cope any more. If we split up this is exactly what his parents want....

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  • 10 years ago
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    1. Stop giving them extra money. If something breaks offer nothing but sympathy. If they ask you for money, say you don't have it (I spent it on food, I spent it on gas, I spent it...). They won't know if you don't tell them. Change your passwords if they know them. If they want to buy stuff on line offer to help them make an account/email, but don't offer yours up. If you don't have your own bank account, get one.

    Hopefully, once you stop giving them money you'll have more to save to move out. If your boyfriend wants to give them money, let him give them his own.

    2. Move out! Even if you have to move out on your own into a flat share. You don't have to make it a "you against them" thing. You can always just say that you feel bad living off his parents, so you are going to get a flat share for yourself until the both of you can afford your own place. Hopefully, you can afford to share an apartment with a couple of other people.

    3. Should you break up? I don't know. However, please get away from his parents. It's seriously stressing you out and they are taking advantage of you.

  • 10 years ago

    please split up.. its the best for you. and seven years? geez.. after that long looks like ur not getting married...

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