Why am I attracted to strange men?

I've always like strange guys--- why? Because they are not boring.

Brad Pitt to me seems like a total BORE!

Give me Quentin Tarantino..... meow!!!

Also when I was 13, I was crushing on Oscar Levant who was a very clever and sarcastic wit back in the day. (Judy Garland had a crush on him, too.)

As fas the "older" part of it..... I think it's a desire to feel protected. Also with age comes power and power is sexy.

Enjoy it. Variety is the spice of life.

So good to hear somebody fancy the same men as I do!

Peter Stormare in Prison Break -Oh Helloowww

Javier in- wait for it- No Country For Old Men.

Myles Kennedy.

And my ultimate love...HHH. Since I was about 5 years old...

Also what I find, is the weirdd looking guys who I would generally fancy in real life, always seem to like me. There the ones that look at me and try to get my attention. I'm not complaining.

The funny thing is, I got with someone, who everybody calls 'handsome'- I mean everybody. He is beautiful, and I only think this has heightened my desire for an odd looking, and generally older man.

You have thought this through to the extend where it is quite beyond my reach to offer any mind-blowing information. However, the thing about having "daddy issues" is that consciously you don't feel like you have them. It's a mind trick of sorts where the original problem is suppressed and thus no longer experienced. It then gives rise to a projection that isn't experienced as such by the person in question, but is thought of as original and authentic behavior.

Being attracted to older men could be such a projection, in which case you might have daddy issues - but you wouldn't know about them, since you've suppressed them. Should you be aware of your possible daddy issues, your attraction to older men would vanish over night. That's how suppressing and projecting works.

I am not saying you do have daddy issues. If you don't date older men and succeed at "age appropriate" dating there is no reason to pick your psyche apart over this. We all have weird attractions, but as long as they do not interfere with leading a rich and fulfilling life there is no reason to analyse them to death.

Attraction isn't a simple science. Well, there is research behind it, but that is simply behind an overall/average explanation for everyone. But the average, even by virtue of its definition, does not account for everyone. There is no reason why you can't find older men attractive. And it is not in anyway odd that you end up finding people attractive that others don't. As a side note, you haven't met everyone, so I am sure on at least some of those people you have many fellow females who agree with you (you just never met them and therefore didn't get the chance to hear them say that they find those guys attractive too).

I think you are onto something with the liking a guy even more because he is not considered attractive by others. This is one point within my answer that I am tapping into my own actual personal experiences. Among the women that I consider attractive, and I am very particular about what I like, I have always given an extra bonus to those that seem to be less "popular" and/or less noticed by other men. I think it results from a combination of automatically liking the idea of not having to compete (getting the prize easier) and of feeling that a woman who is less focused on is more of a novelty and/or special. I also believe that a bit of it comes from enjoying the moments where I seem like an individual. The women who seem to only be attractive to me also seem to represent aspects of me that are unique (since I am seemingly the only person that likes that look). Therefore, I am happy to be able to confirm my individuality through my attraction to particular woman.

It is very likely that other parts of your life are "getting in the way" of what you consider attractive. Or rather, influencing what you consider attractive. Always perceiving yourself as less hot than your sister could definitely have an impact. Feeling like you weren't necessarily as much of a go-getter as you friends could also have had an impact. But then again, this is expected and one of the main points of our existence. Everyone is unique, has their own qualities, and has their own thoughts, all of which affect each other, producing unique results.

I wouldn't fret it. There is a possibility that you have drawn yourself away from a group of men that you also consider attractive because of your experiences, but for the most part, what you have automatically for a long time consider to be attractive is the main portion of what you like. I encourage to continue looking to discover the other groups of men that you find attractive, but to also be happy with what you have discovered already since it is a representation of you and your individuality.

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And now for a point that has been proven many times over through Psychology research. Women tend to find older men attractive whereas guys go for younger and "hotter" women. It stems from men overall being attracted to someone who can give them a baby, and women wanting someone who can support their baby (an older man, particularly with money and experience is more likely to be able to care for a baby better than a young guy just out of college who still hasn't fully matured in his behavior). So, in fact, the old age part isn't peculiar at all.

Hm, I really like this question because...its jsut like me! I'm 19 and I'm black, native and hungarian but...I like older white guys! Haha, and there isn't any "wrongness" in the age difference, that's just wat u like :) Its others reactions that make you fell weird about it. Its completely fine. Many others actually feel the same way but won't admit it because they are afraid of society. I never cared, I loved going to the mall with my 39 year old caucasion boyfriend!! Haha, were not together anymore but, I loved him and thought he was the sexiest thing in the world! There is no "why" to this situation, its just you. And its perfectly fine to not be part of the norm. I think jeff and 'snape' r hot too hahaha, don't worry, and don't let people make you feel bad about it :)

Peter Stormare? the guy from prison break? O.K it sounds a bit weird but.. who cares really its just a prference right? I wouldn't worry about it. Its just a fanasy.. a weird one but yeh..

No I think we all get these feelings. To me Jamie Oliver is a child, in fact I think he's younger than me!

Just enjoy your fantaises adn get on with your life too much thinking drives you crazy.

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