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Is my relationship with my 22 year old boyfriend illegal?

Alright, I live in IA and he lives in VA, He is 22 years old as of November 1989 and I am 17, my birthday is May 1994. Is this illegal? what laws does it follow? state law or federal law? Is it illegal with the 5 year thing? When we started dating, he was 21 and i was 17, but now that he's had his birthday, theres about a 6 month gap before i turn 18...

and my parents approve (well sort of...my mom doesnt like it that much and tries to keep me away from him because he is far away and she thinks i may not be mature enough, but she has not said no i cannot date him and she actually did say 5 months ago, when we started dating, that she was ok with it) We have met, so its not an internet dating thing, and the last time i saw him was thanksgiving, we did not have any sex.

Update:

okay this was a misunderstanding:

he is 22 years old as of november 2011

he was born in 1989

so he is not 44 and we are 4 years and 6 months apart, right?

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  • 9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Relationships are never illegal lol. If you were having sex with him, then the SEX would be considered rape. That would be federal law. I don't know about state laws though. Hope this helps!

  • Usually the parents are the ones that call the police, but if they approve it's fine, at

    least where I live.

    Many people think it's wrong, I don't though. Most younger girls with older guys have innocent relationships.

    Besides when you're older it won't be a big deal like a 20 year old and 25 year old dating is pretty normal.

  • 9 years ago

    Well where I live age of consent is 16, and it's usually between 16-18 for other places. But your mom also did not forbid you from dating, so as long as she doesn't call the cops or try to get the law involved, you're fine. once you turn 18 then you don't need to worry about it.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    In most states as lon as you don't have sex he should be safe then again if your parents do not approve they have every right to keep him from seeing you until you are of age. He is an adult by law and you are by law still considered a minor until you turn 18...then you can decide freely what choices to make with your dating life and so on. Just keep it safe, keep it clean, and dont get anyone in trouble. :)

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  • 9 years ago

    22 as of 1989? Girl, it is 2011. Your man is 44 years old. I don't care whether or not it's illegal. We are dealing with a 27 year age difference, and that is just gross. If the age DIFFERENCE is ten more than your entire age, there is a problem.

  • Anonymous
    4 years ago

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  • Poppet
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    If sex is not involved your relationship is legal. There are no laws on dating. There are laws on sex and sexual activities.

    Age of sexual consent is 16 in your state.

    Age of sexual consent is 18 in his state.

  • 9 years ago

    That is perfectly legal! As long as you have parents consent and you aren't having sex, it's just fine!

    Source(s): Did research on a similar problem a couple months ago
  • 9 years ago
  • 9 years ago

    Yeah, but you should ask in Politics as the other said above, since my answer would be "As far as he's hot". hahahha xD And kind, of course. :)

    Source(s): Don't break up just because a bloody law. This would be stupid, haha xD
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