i'm single and upset...?

Hi Kiki,

How do you get a guy to notice you? Make good eye contact, ask a few generic questions, be nice & pleasant, and have a friendly smile. Laugh at his jokes. Tell him "thank you" if he helps you with a school homework problem. Give him a compliment. Repeat daily.

BTW, posting your e-mail on Y!A is probably a great way... to attract crazed maniacs.

So, assuming that you might wish to avoid a few of the more common dating pitfalls... how about some free advice about guys and dating? OK.

Consider the following... what do guys look for in a girl? Different guys look for different things... depending on the guy and his age.

Typical young immature teenage guys:

1. Hot body

2. Cute face

3. Hot body

4. Willing to fall for their lines of crap

5. Hot body

Typical players and creeps:

1. Hot body

2. Dumb enough to fall for their lines of crap

3. Hot body

4. No Dad or big older brother to protect her

5. Hot body

Typical geeks and shy guys:

1. Any reasonably attractive female who would be willing to date him

Typical mature & decent guys:

1. Nice personality (not too clingy, not too dramatic, not an airhead)

2. Nice body (hot would be good... but not required)

3. Cute face

4. Intelligent

5. Not a sl*t

In order to protect your tender heart, it's a good idea to be cautious about the types of guys that you would be willing to date... and watch out how you behave, too. Why?

- Because lots of young guys tend to be frogs… not princes.

- Because many guys will typically want to go way past kissing if the girl allows it.

- Because sheltered and inexperienced girls can be too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional.

- Because some girls have poor judgment and believe the lies spouted by a jerk or player.

- Because many guys are typically only interested in what's in a girl's panties.

- Because some guys don't care about a girl's feelings.

- Because lots of guys are frequently focused solely on satisfying their own selfish desires.

- Because many girls tend to equate love with kissing and sex (translation - they get their heart trampled), while most young guys don't (translation - they simply say "See ya later, Dummy!").

- Because after the inevitable break-up, a young lady will often feel as though her world has collapsed.

Ironically, the jerks and players are usually the most fun and the best looking. Why? Because there are lots of foolish girls out there who have the following issues:

- No parental supervision

- Lack of a good Dad in their lives, so they readily accept the attention from jerks (because they crave male love and approval)

- Are gullible and easily lied to

- Allow guys to quickly become physical

- Give away their virginity based on the lies a jerk will whisper into her ears

- Don't mind getting treated like crap

- Do not learn from their mistakes after getting dumped and heartbroken

Don't be tempted to act like a sl*t. If you head down that road, then you'll only succeed in attracting complete jerks who will then proceed to wreck your life... and make your parents really mad at both you and the jerk.

What are some hazards of dating? Here are a few -

1. Watch out for those handsome players or creeps who might pretend to like you, because you could easily fall for their phony attention and smooth lines of crap. Beware - they'll use your body and then dump you like a sack of potatoes.

2. Decide on your physical limits before you start dating, and stick to those limits. Getting too excited while being alone together with your date or your steady BF is not the time to start thinking about setting limits... your judgment will be clouded, and your BF's judgment will be long gone.

3. No matter what, don't date any older adult guys who pretend to be interested in you. They're even worse than players your own age... and like the players they'll only be interested in one thing... and it won't be your mind.

Be advised that as time passes, some of your friends and classmates will probably be expecting you to follow whatever path they are traveling... even if it is a stupid path of dating jerks, making out with random guys, or casual sex. Be strong and resist that kind of peer pressure.

How can you keep your heart from getting trampled? Keep your panties on until you get married. That'll eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You'll also be protected against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.

Final advice? Don't make too many stupid decisions, don't date jerks, don't drink too much booze or take any drugs, don't have friends who drink heavily or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.

Those are a few things for you to think about, Kiki. Good luck!

Signed, PC

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