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i had my ex-wife's cousin and his 11 yr old daughter living here, helping them out in hard times. long story short, he attacked myself (i'm a 65 yr old male), my 18 yr old daughter and her boyfriend. he choked all of us, slammed us against the walls, grabbing us by the throat. he's in jail on a $33,000 cash only bail. charged with 2 felonies, domestic battery by strangulation and 1 misdemeanor battery by strangulation. his girlfriend asked me if i would drop the charges and the restraining order. i told her i don't think i can drop the charges even if i wanted to. the police didn't ask us if we wanted to press charges, they just took him straight to jail that night. given his criminal history, 2 previous violent felonies, he could very easily be looking at life (this is a 3 strikes state). my quandary, i really don't want him to go to prison, lose his daughter and basically ruin his life over a situation that got totally out of hand because i asked him for rent $. my daughter is scared to death of him now, says it's not her problem and wants him to go to prison. i can see her point but i can also see my point. any advice/opinions are appreciated.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Only the state prosecutor can drop the charges.

Violent crimes are prosecuted in the best interest of the community, so your opinion wont be needed or requested by the court; and as a matter of fact you can be forced to testify if you refuse to do so.

Strangling is nothing to be taken lightly; he could have killed you or someone else. So don't be weak, because the next time he could kill someone.

rafferty · Answer

You are correct in that you can't drop the charges and have this go away.  The State (or Commonwealth) is bringing the charges and will do so with or without you.

You will be asked to testify, and if you refuse, you will get a subpoena.  If you still refuse, you will be in jail right along with the cousin.

I understand your feelings, I really do, however you can't protect him from his bad actions, and if he gets out, his daughter may not be safe.

This is outside your control in any event.  Let the wheels of justice turn.

? · Answer

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Dave87gn · Answer

Its not your place to save his life...he made his bed and now he has to lie in it..You owe it to your family and the rest of society to keep this trash out of the society.. If he gets out, he'll hurt someone..that IS A FACT

Annie · Answer

He has a violent history and history is repeating itself.  Just who would  you like him to kill next time he loses his temper?

dourdan · Answer

let the jerk go to jail. his daughter is better off in foster care then with someone like that.

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