Ramadan ❀ Marriage problem & Need advice?

Salams sister:-)

Just tell her to be firm and to put her foot down.. Turn to Allah swt and make dua and maybe you should try talking to her parents if you know them well? Also istikhara should be done aswell. InshaAllah everything will become easy for her..

Wa alaykumusalam:-)

Mostly it's lust not love. I know UAE society and I know the 'Arab' mind. Too much nationalism and tribalism. It will create a lot of problems and lead to a lack of barakah (blessings) in the marriage due to the parent's anger. Such marriages do not really last as family plays an important part in the life of an emirati. At the end of the day the sister should try to persuade the parents to forget this nationalism and tribalism. If however the family insists then she should resign herself to destiny and not go against her parents wishes. Please see this book on tafweez (consigning all our affairs to ALLAH) http://yunuspatel.co.za/books-tafweez.php

We pay too much importance to this 'love' thing. Trust me most of the time it's pure lust especially from the man's side. Girl's have this very romantic cloud 7 image of marriage. In reality marriage is far more complex than the romeo and julliet scenario.

I think her parents want their daughter to marry someone from their culture that's why they refused and it's common between Arab families. However I think it's wrong that her parents are deciding for her because at the end of the day it's her choice and if they guy was genuine and had a good personality as you mentioned then there is no reason for her family to put him down, your friend should show her parents why she is so attached to him and mention his qualities and try to persuade her parents because she's not going to always find the right guy.

Tell her to marry him anyway. she's going 2 get married one day what could be better than marrying the one you love. she may have 2 come out of her family 2 do this. its alright my sis had a love marriage bless her and all her relatives were talking to her after a couple of years. they'll get over it lets hope they give her their blessing. tell them both 2 set a good example so her parents are convinced this was a good thing 2 start with. plus Indian and yemini = Hot!

The same is with my parents i know they wouldn't be happy about me marrying another race. But all you can say to her if its your destiny you will marry him no matter what and Allah is just testing you patients and faith , because Allah has chosen him for you, and if it isn't thank Allah for not falling on the wrong path for a guy she was never meant to marry.

P.s you question will only get deleted if Abdul Malik visits it and other extremist, i have to deal with this everyday

@arif- lol i know right, i hate him, he think he's always right, i just wanna bury his head in the Arabian desert :) and he is blocked me too how fun! :D

Ask her and her parents to Pray istekhara

inshallah

Allah will turn their hearts towrds the good

she cannot marry unless her wali approves..

her hubby is already decreed for her..she cant marry any but the one whos decreed for her..

ask her to trust Allah, cuz

"everything happens for the best"

Salaam

NOTE: mails or chats without the supervison of guardian is haraam, she would have not faced the prob, if she followed the halal 'dating' way :)

Her parents need to learn about Islam. Plus she will be the one married to him so I don't see why they care.

Her parents have looked down on him. Her happiness should be her parents happiness. Insha'Allah all will be ok

Tell her to move on as soon as possible. That's the best advice. The longer you linger on, the harder it becomes to let go.

Race does have a basis in Islam.

And preferences to marry within one's race does not equate racism.