Serious sex problem!?

This is a difficult subject and difficult to give the right answer. Many factors could be in play. Are you generally happy? Depression can cause this problem. Are you stressed? Is there a medical reason for the pain and discomfort?

If you want, try spicing things up. Change from your normal sex routine. Role play. Costumes /lingerie. (Believe it or not, the right outfit can make you feel super Sexy and help you get in the mood). Get a hotel room (if you're old enough) and spend a night doing nothing but foreplay. You can incorporate sex toys. Vibrators and bullets can really help a womans sex drive. As can finding the right lubricants. Use a edible warming (I have some but can't think of the name of it) oil when he is pleasuring you and draw a heart shape around your nipples with it. This helps blood floe to these areas causing the pleasure to increase. Try new positions. Have him sit on the couch while you get on and hold his knees. This helps angle you so your clitoris is getting extra attention. Just don't be afraid to experiment. There'd nothing wrong with it as long as you are both game and willing. (Side note, watching porn together during foreplay can be an amazing aphrodisiac)

So do you love this guy? Is sex the most important part of your relationship? Sex shouldnt hurt. You don't give enough information regarding the type of pain so it is hard to say what causes it. Is it the drudgery of doing the same thing over that is the issue? There is plenty of sex to be seen on the internet. Maybe looking at some will give you guys ideas to try new things.

Be direct with him. Telll him what turns you on and what you don't like. Teach him that the real joy of sex for a man is giving a woman pleasure not just getting off. Sex is just not poking a penis in a hole. It begins with foreplay and ends arm in arms. Sex should be a expression of your love not the focus of it.

Good luck with it.

first of all if your in pain, then you should figure that ot first. if your not feeling, er warmed up as you used to, then you mite need a little extra lubricant. if its something more serious or something hard to describe, i would go to the doctor and get checked out to rule out anything too serious, or something you can do to help. On the emotional side you and your bf are gonna need ot have an open talk, and maybe start experimenting with different or typically taboo ideas and situationd for you to get back into the groove again and feel excited. maybe buy a sex book or manual, and read up on something you find interesting and bring it up to your partner to try. If hes not willing to reciprocate then maybe your relationship is the key problem, but if he is then try anything you can, dont give up yet. But dont forget to get checked out!

Making love should never be painful, if you are using a lubricant I would suggest that you do, if still painful after that then perhaps you should go to your doctor and let him examine you in case there is a medical problem.

But if your love making now seems to be a chore then perhaps he is not the right guy for you

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