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Bf won't spend New years with me :( ?

We have been together for almost a year (New years is the anniversary that we first met).

Earlier last week I asked my boyfriend if he would spend New years with me. He said to me basically what if he wanted to spend new years with his family, or do something else.

I understand he's not obligated to spend new years with me. But I was down visiting my family, and he sort of manipulated me into coming back down to where he lives. I live in the same city as him and I go to school there. My parents live 45 minutes away, and I don't have a car. None of my friends drive either so them coming down is not an option.

I would go back home for new years, but I start school again on the 3rd and am unsure if I would have a ride to get back here in time for school anyway.

I feel like crap because for Christmas he never invited me over to meet more of his family. I was okay with that, until I found out that his cousin's girlfriend was allowed to go :S

Does this mean I don't mean anything to my bf? I'm starting to feel that way.

I am already depressed, as I am not sleeping well and the holidays are always a rough time of year for me.

What should I do?

I have no friends here that I can hang out with, all have already made plans that don't include me :/

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    It's not a question of obligation. You're with your mate because they are your best friend in the world and you want to be with them. Sounds like maybe you need to think about finding someone who wants to make an effort to be in a relationship with you. If he doesn't want to spend time with you then some thing's very wrong that he's not telling you.

  • 9 years ago

    Hmmm....how 'sad'.....&.....Sorry to hear abt yr situation ~~~

    Well ~ It does happens (even to me)....

    AND~I'm sure, there's a reason for everything ~~~ :)

    It could be a 'sign' for yr goodself......& U need to ponder deeply

    Afterall....U are yr own Destiny.....

    Like my Dad will always say ~

    "We don't 'own' them & neither do they own us....so we gotta be flexible"

    It was fortunate that he "made the mistake"...&...not U....

    SO~U are 1 up & he has to buk-up....IF....he truly loves U....

    Hear him out & see what he says......don't argue.....

    Otherwise~U would be better-off going "Fishing" again ~~~ LOL

    WELL.....I hope I have comforted & motivated U in this New Year....

    We ALL wanna be HAPPY, right ?:)

    I WISH U WELL.....

    "HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012" to yr goodself ~~~ :)

    CHEERS & JUST GET ROCKING FOR 2012 ~~~ :)))

    * http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p_8t-e-F2qs

    TQ FOR YR FRIENDSHIP....BLESS U EVER !!!

    * I should think "seopro" said it well here.....

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