Please help me or my friend?

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I do hv a close friend let's name J,on 19/11/2011 her grandma had passed away.The following weeks after she SMSes me that she had dreamt of her parents passed away like her grandma,she's so afraid that she'll lose her parents cos she's the only child & don't know who 2 turn if they're gone.I told her that is human process,her tears came down while at night she was so afraid that she dared not 2 close her eyes.what should I do or advice her?Pls only SERIOUS & SINCERE ppl 2 comment ONLY,NO PRANKS OR BAD comments!!with advance thanks & wishing all happy blessed new year 2012,;)

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first I would like 2 send my saddest condolence 2 u & your friend,what she's going through now is a tough time it'll takes some time 2 get over it.If she needs a shoulder 2 cry on,be there 4 her telling her that crying will help her as different people have their ways of grieving.Tell her don't think of her parents in that way,as thats not the right way.Lastly I hope she'll be back the same 'J' u know,my words 2 her be strong!

Land-shark · Answer

Without knowing her religion's respected and time-proven coping strategies, it is not possible to offer meaningful advice.
One day they will inevitably pass, but not yet and 'yet' could be 30 years. When my Grandma went I too thought of the mortality of my parents. Dad died 32 years after and Mom 38 years. You just try to get on with life and let their memories guide you.

Anonymous · Answer

Do in order
1. Give her a hug and let her squish you to death
2. Do not mention that her grandma died because it will make her go in tears again
3. Volunteer to take her to her favorite activity like ice skating and pay for her and you
4. Have a blast and make her froget about her grandma
(Hope I helped, im the class emotional breakdown girl therapist, its different for each girl)

? · Answer

Don't take dreams seriously.
Because she's trying to cope with the loss of her loved one, her mind could easily turn the thing she's being bothered by into something frightening.

Always try to be there with your friend and help her through this hard time in her life. Sleep will help her feel better, also.

Best of luck!

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show her a good time, take her out and have some fun, if she is reminded of all the great things about life then she will almost forget about death, this is the type of thing that can only go in time.

Anonymous · Answer

you did the right thing in telling her its natural to pass on. try harder to relieve her fears and that its her concern and fear that being translated into her dream.
do also tell her to speak it with her parents at the right time and most importantly is to relieve her fear and anxiety.
herd ream shows she is very attached to her parents and she is not as independent as she might be? get someone close to her to explain and calm her.

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