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Monty Python's Flying Circus asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 9 years ago

Insane Situation...Totally pissed and regretful....?

Alright, back story:

My bf bought me a plane ticket to South Korea to meet his parents (we've been dating for about a year).

I really really wanted to go, but my mom hates my bf and is afraid of something "bad" could happen to me in South Korea. Sooo my plane was supposed to leave on Dec 27th...And...I was about to walk out the door with everything, but she physically stops me (punches and pushes me) from leaving!

Soo now I feel terrible and my bf and his parents are really disappointed. And I have an un-used plane ticket that I have no clue what to do with.

The thing is, I have the option of going to South Korea January 2nd to the 19th, even though it will cost $800 extra to change my ticket. My bf's parents are willing to pay this and I really want to go.

Now, before I tried leaving THE FIRST time for South Korea, my mom told me if I don't go and stay here, then our relationship will get much better and she'll be nice (my relationship w/ my mom has honestly sucked for the past 2 years). So anyway, I stayed (reluctantly) in America when I was supposed to leave...Then THE VERY NEXT DAY my mother starts ranting and raving and going crazy (as usual, no lie) about how stupid i am and how she wants to "take a step back" from me. And she's now going to move out of our apartment, let me take over the rental-lease, and move somewhere that I won't be able to go cuz she willingly will not tell me where. She doesn't want anything to do with me anymore. BUT WTF its like, she promised me to change if i stayed (and i did, even if i was FORCED to stay) but then she doesnt change??!?!?! What am I supposed to do?

Also, if I go to South Korea, my twin sister would be INSTANTLY kicked out of the house...But now im thinking "well that doesnt matter if me and my sister will have to take over this rental of hers".

(My sister and I have the option of staying at my bfs house for indefinitely with not having to pay rent.)

So. I have an un-used plane ticket that I need to change the date so I don't lose the money on it. Should I book it for Jan 2nd and do what I want, or still try to please my mom? PLEASE...PLEASE I could use the advice, no trolls, and I need some advice right now cuz this is a lot to deal with!!

Thanks

Additional Details

Sorry for leaving out these details lol but I'm 21 and my mother originally set me and my bf up! Theyre both becoming massage therapists so they go to the same classes and etc.

Uhm well my father passed away about 15 years ago so theres no help there :*(

OK also, my bf lives in America....like 10minutes from my house, so i've obviously met him in person for a whole year now and i've done extended stays at his house before (like 5 days at a time) so yeah lol its NOT an internet relationship at all, its totally been person to person

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  • HeRe 4 yOu
    9 years ago
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    you mother has problems. You are a big girl, and you are fully capable of taking care of yourself. I would go to Korea. I would ask your BF if your siser could stay at his house while you went to korea. You will be fine. Your mom has problems and she needs some help. If my mom had done that to me, i would have kicker her butt! She used to be abusive to me when i was younger and i would take it till one day i had enough and fought her back. She never hit me after that but once i had the chance to get out and away from her i took it and never looked back. Live your life, go to korea and have fun, you will be fine.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    You should definately go, you have a real chance at being happy. Pack your stuff and stay at your bf house or with a friend until its time to catch your flight. Your mother is being irrational and abusive. If this is what you want then you have to go and be independent. Hope everything works out.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    You need to get away from your mother. She sounds like she has a lot of issues. She obviously needs to get some professional help, but who honestly knows if that will ever happen. I don't know what to suggest other than getting away from your mother. She's trying to control you and you're an adult now.

  • Little Ollie
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Go, you're living in a totally dysfunctional situation. I left home when I was 19 and it was the best

    thing I ever did for myself. My mother is unreasonable and nuts. I still visit her and fortunately have been able to leave behind all the drama and chaos she caused. Good Luck.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    You are an adult. Make adult decisions. Advise your Mum if she attacks you again you will need to charge her with assault. As far as her hiding from you, her choice. She cannot hide your sister, she is an adult.

    I recommend some mental health help for your Mum.

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