too soon to get engaged?

Though you are on the right track for a good future, I think you're too young just yet.

First, "engagement' is the period in which you plan your wedding. If you're not ready to plan your wedding and be married right now, then you're not ready to be engaged yet either. Its "engaged to be married" not "engaged to be engaged".

You already know its too soon. Don't get married or engaged before the time is right, don't get married because you're afraid the relationship will end if you don't. If it does due to lack of engagement, that is a sign it that she or you isn't the one.

My husband and I dated for less than 2 years when we got engaged, however we were/are both in our 30's. We had both finished school, had careers, lived independently, traveled extensively and also did the young single adult thing.

Though legally you're an adult. The adult portion of your brain which controls major decision making hasn't actually formed yet. It forms around the ages of 23-24. When it does your thought process begins to change, your goals and what you want out of life does as well. Some are the same as when you were in your teens and very early 20's, most though are different.

You are only twenty and i guy at that. it wouldn be good to marry to young or before you are ready. but for men that has been in a long term relationship without proposing no matter what age is this. if you are not willing to make that next step then you are leavin the door open to see what better comes along. if not then why not just tie the knot? even if you love her you still are afraid to marry the wrong girl or you would have asked by now. no girl wants a super long engagement. they want a ring with a definate date no more than twelve months away. otherwise they will think you are just blowin got air. the fact that she is ready to marry you and you are not confirms the future of the relationship. it will not last weather you give in or not. you are in two totally different places. if you let her pressure you into now both of you will regret it cuz you are not ready and most likely will resent her and/or cheat . if she waits around on you she will leave to look for someone else or just give up. when women are ready to marry and you are not we think he does not love me and if i had to ask HIM about it first he will never be ready and i am wasting my time

The earlier you get married, the earlier you get divorced. Go for it!

you are too young.

getting engaged is not "advanced going steady".

say "i am not getting married until i am 28" over and over agian unitl it rolls off your tongue with ease.

[edit: and go build your race car]

You are correct in your thoughts, but 2 years is a long enough engagement but also you are kinda young. You need to have a job, a car and a place to live before you get married. Can you afford an engagement ring? What age is the girlfriend? Are you even the tinyest bit unsure about whether your girlfriend is the ONE for you? If your girlfriend is pushing to get married ir may be time to give her the go. If you are not ready, inside your head, it's a no go. Do not think of marriage as it'll last and if it doesn't we can divorce. If, in your head you don't think you can live with this girl with all her faults and no matter if she gets fat or whatever reason then you are not ready to marry. The girl should feel the same. Remember that once married everything changes. You need to be ready for the good changes and not so good changes.

Good luck and let your gf read this and see what she says. Is she unreal in her expectations?

-You need to "reassure" Your Girlfriend- that You aren't "going Anywhere", and that as SOON as the "Time is Right", -that She'll be the FIRST to Know- when it's "Time" to start making all the "Arrangements..." ;)

If your not 100% sure, then your probably not. Talk to her about what both of you want.

no,most people i know get married between 20-25

In my opinion your to young to get married but after two years if you feel like it a two year engagement might be good to start.

No that's fine. Being 20 is absolutly ok. And dating and getting to know each other for 2 years is great, do go for it and good luck :)