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I am having trouble enjoying foreplay. Does anyone have any ideas for me?

I have a hard time enjoying foreplay. My husband kisses, rubs, and touches various places, and though it does feel good, it doesn't really excite me enough to get me sexually aroused. What am I doing wrong? Is it my husband? What advice can you give me to help improve my foreplay?

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  • ab
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    One of you guys have better be highly sexually charge and being the dominate person. It only takes at least one sexually driven spouse to make this work. Just surrender your body to his hot commands and do exactly what he tells you. Let your body be loved by him. When it comes to hot sex let him take full control of the situation and dominate you.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Some people just aren't so into foreplay. As long as you are aroused enough for penetration to be comfortable, and as long as you're easily satisfied during intercourse, there's nothing wrong with not caring so much about foreplay.

  • 9 years ago

    Ur mind is showing some disturb , When you want to enjoy the full pleasure of sex both minds are syncronize , Using the tricks to enjoye life, ORAL sex is one of the best way to enjoy the sex ask the husband regarding that , than you should definally enjoy 4 time in a night

  • ?
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    Not everyone is into lots of foreplay. but if you still want to try guide him to new places you might like. Maybe the back of your neck. The small of your back. Lightly and slowly running his tongue up your spine. The back of your knees. Maybe it's the kissing itself. It should be slow, sensual, with just enough tongue to make it exciting. Not a full on lick in a kiss just the tip. And while he is kissing you maybe he could take the suggestion of when he is chest level or lower. To every once in a while lightly, just with the tip, and slowly run his tongue back up to your lips for a passionate kiss. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Every one is different, and so there places and methods may require tweaking.

    Source(s): Life, lust, death.
  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    you're a lesbian. try it with a chick instead.

  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Have you ever enjoyed it, or is this a recent development? For women, so much of enjoying sex is mental-you really have to get in the right frame of mind to be turned on, and it can change quickly. If you used to enjoy foreplay, then it's probably a mental block and you need to set things up for success. Take a sensual bubble bath, set the mood with music, candles, whatever makes you feel sexy and good. Allow yourself to relax, let it be about you, focus on the moment. Don't overthink about what might happen next, tell him what you want.

  • DelK
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Are there any lingering or latent resentments you feel toward him?

  • ?
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Just go with the flow and get lost in it. It's not a goal but a journey! You could also give him some direction as to what would work for you.

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