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Can someone please tell me what to do ?

This will be really long , but please bear with me . I live in very hard conditions . My so called father left me when i was only 2 years old . I only meet him in court , cause he refuses to pay for me , since my parents are divorced and i live with my so called mother . I don't hate that man . I don't waste my time thinking about that ************ . My mother on the other hand , lives with me but i can't really call her my mother , cause she isn't fit for the one . From the moment i know for myself , she was babying me . I tired to prove her that its bad , and that might harm my development . I am 15 years old guy right now , and she still does it . She always nags me about something , sometimes is the way i am holding spoon while eating , articles i read on internet , the way i put my socks on , my attitude and many more things she has no right to decide . You probably think that i am crazy for saying that she has no right as my mother but i will explain now . I live with my grandparents too . To sum it together , its : me , mother and my grandparents . They take all care of me , but i really mean it ALL . We live in one big house , i live with my grandparents on the 1 floor , and she is down there , i don't even know how to call it . She barely completed her 3 year high school , and barely gets a job at some tavern few miles away . It has gotten worse over the years . She married again for some nice guy , but he is so damn lazy , only he can be . As i said , marriage lasted 3 years , and well it still lasts , but this guy returned home since he couldn't take her . She didn't marry for better future of her only son , but simply because of that man's "cute blue eyes" . Its like she didn't even got out of puberty . Sometimes it looks like i am more mature than her . I get good grades , my gpa is around 4,1 , i don't smoke drink or do drunks , i don't go to parties and clubs , i don't go out at all , something that even my grandparents judge . I know how to handle money , and i save money , but i don't even know why . I afford my teeth prosthesis , glasses , and high school fees by myself from the money i saved up , and when i ask her is that the way a mother should act , she just says "Aleksandar , you know that mom doesn't have money . I mean WHAT THE **** ? Aleksandar is my name btw . The same thing happened when my school books were in question . My grandparents had to pay with their retirement , that can barely cover basic life expenses up . I am very understanding teen , and i never throw fits or anything . i understand that crisis caught up whole world , and i never begged for a new mobile phone or something like that . My grandparents are my only support in life , but they easily get upset over minor things , usually revolving about MY DEAREST MOMMY . I don't even know if this is a question , or the silent confession of my soul . I am very good with technology , especially computers , and with languages . English isn't my mutual language , but i had to write it this way , for you guys to tell me what to do . I am a loner , and i don't like to hang out . I prefer company of older people , since i find my pals to me little childish . I am very unmotivated to do anything in my life , but there is one thing i would like to do . I would love te become a digial nomad . I mean to leave all **** behind , and go globetrotting , and finally living this goddamn life . I am not planing this until my grandparents die , cause they don't deserve to be left by me . I own them an hell of things . And to tell you the truth , my mother is the reason my father left me . He just couldn't handle her anymore , and left me with the devil . Now since she works at tavern , i fear that she might start drinking , and "falls to my back" . I told her to find some rich husband , since she won't have retirement with education and work like that . But no , she lives for today . Please tell me what to do , cause i might run out on the street naked and scream that i am a messenger of god . Sounds nasty , but really , it's come to that . Please help me guys , this has gone too far for me to handle . Thanks in advance and happy new 2012 !

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  • 9 years ago
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    Lets think about your mom for a moment... it could just be that she isnt prepared for the ever changing life of a teenager or there could be a very serious reason behind it. About your future.....ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS!!! become a digital nomad!! travel the world!! because even though it may be dark right now life is a precious and shouldn't be wasted!! i know it sounds cheesy but it true! The only help you can get is help yourself. Treat your mother with respect and maybe even get a job to help your grandparents with retirement!! I know it sounds tough but its all up to you!! Good luck!!

  • 9 years ago

    I would get out of the house as much as possible. Do some volunteer work somewhere (a retirement home, a children's center, animal shelter or any other place that appeals to you). It will broaden your horizons considerably and when you help others, you help yourself. You will make more friends, have more role models, and feel better about yourself. Not being around people who treat you like you're a baby will make you feel more independent and more capable, also.

    There are also the added bonuses that volunteer work looks good on a college application and a job application (landing a job when you're 15 or any job in life!) which should help your mother know that it's a good idea.

    Try it for a month even-and if you don't feel like things have improved at least a little bit (even your outlook) you can always discontinue doing it. :)

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