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How do I break up with someone who loves me?

I need to break up with my boyfriend for a LOT of reasons... He went so far so fast and is already talking about marriage and promises when I'm 15 and we've been dating 4 months? I can't handle it. And he's threatened to commit suicide if I leave. I know people say it's most likely he won't, but he's had a history of trying to once. Im scared for his life that's all! How do I do it?! Help :(

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  • 9 years ago
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    You are in a right state of mind for wanting to leave. If he has a history of attempt at suicide, and is wanting to talk to you about marriage when you are both so young, he is desperately insecure. He wants to hear you say that you will marry him, and be his forever, when you have no need to say any of those things, especially if you do not feel them. Your fear of him committing suicide, while it is valid, should not be your main concern. You have every right to live your life to it's fullest, and should not be worried about anyone else's feelings quite frankly. If you feel that you may be able to talk to him seriously and work on your relationship, I would try telling him that he has nothing to worry about, so he can hear it often, while also explaining that he needs to slow down and relax. If you are convinced that it is over, then do it ASAP, and say all you have hear. All this talk is simply not for you. Handle it as maturely and strong as you are here. This is never easy, best of luck to you.

  • 9 years ago

    Tell him you don't want to get married so soon. If you don't love him as much as he does you, then tell him this, but try not to rip his heart out.

    I dated a guy for about 3 months and he was freaking crazy for me. I lost hope for the relationship and I told him I needed to be on my own. We still talked and we met up after the breakup and just hugged for like 10 minutes one day. I felt awful, but I wasn't about to lose my friendship with this kid. But when we started school a couple months later, I tried being friends with him, but then he'd get the idea that I want to date again and then I'd get pissed and stop talking to him. Then he got really douchbaggy and I told him to knock the f!ck off. Then he moved and I don't talk to him anymore (thank gahd.) Now he's trying to make me jealous by posting mushy gushy stuff all over his facebook about this girl he's never met in Canada. Awesome. Hahahaha. Good luck with that...

    Hope it helps. (If not then I'm just rambling :))

  • Elana
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Well, you shouldn'tbe held hostage by the suicidal tendencies of somebody else.

    The line "I couldn't live with someone who was always threatening to commit suicide" comes to mind. Seriously, it is emotional blackmail of the worst sort.

  • 9 years ago

    Lol, ohman. You're in a difficult situation right now? But he seems like he's playing mind tricks on you or something. Cos he told you that he'd commit suicide.

    Um no, just do it now and in a kind way before your relationship goes any further.

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  • 9 years ago

    You have no control over what he does. Just tell him you like him but you need to move on. You are to young for life-long commitments.

    I went with a girl for 2 years and we finally got married ... but I never loved her. Don't make that mistake.

  • 9 years ago

    this sounds kinda lame, but maybe go to his parents.... i am 15 too and it does sound kind of childish but just tell them that you dont feel it anymore and you want to protect him. or maybe talk to your parents about it. but marriage is kind of a little too fast when your only 15 and only be dating 4 months. hope this helps

  • 9 years ago

    ouch! lol

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