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When you start dating someone, is it automatically expected to be exclusive?

If you go out with a person, is the assumption that you will not go out with anyone else and neither will he? Is it acceptable to date more than one person at a given time in your life, or is this not allowed anymore?

I ask because it seems to me like people nowadays expect immediate exclusivity. In the past, it was acceptable to date more than one person at a time as long as you were not falsely telling the people you were dating that they were the only one. My perception is that this has changed. Has it?

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
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    When you start dating some one it doesn't have to be exclusive unless it is agreed by both of you that will not date other people.It is acceptable to date other people if you have not obligated your self to this one person.Young people now a days take first dates way too seriously. What I get a kick out of is they actually celebrate 3 or 4 month anniversaries. It has changed among the young.

  • Derail
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Always keep in mind that you never really know what someone is thinking. Yes, ordinarily, dating is supposed to be exclusive between two people. But some people will justify their actions with any matter of personal guide lines to verify what they are doing.

    It's supposed to be exclusive, but not everyone will adhere to this. Remember, every woman has someone in her life. When she says she is alone, she rarely really is. Whether it's a close male friend, the final encounters of an old boyfriend, a long distance other, what ever. There is always somebody she keeps around until someone else fills the relationship role. And in a new relationship, this will often be when she breaks the bond in the old failing relationship. Or she may date more than one guy at a time until she makes up her mind about one in particular.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    It's not exclusive until it's verbalised. I dont' think there's anything wrong with dating a couple people at the same time as long as the people involved don't think its just them. But maybe it's worth checking out someone's intentions before you believe to be exclusive with someone.

  • 9 years ago

    Finally, a decent question.

    Society today says if you are dating someone, than you are dating that one person. Personally, I think dating more than one person is better and more logical because it gives you the opportunity to meet new people and learn what you are looking for in a significant other.

  • 9 years ago

    generally yes, it is expected that its exclusive unless both people agree before one asks the other out that it is not going to be an exclusive relationship but if you just ask someone out then yes it is expected to be exclusive :) hope this helped

  • 9 years ago

    correct on the assumption that both partners expect exclusivity.but i disagree that modern society expects that.. i assume that seeing more than the one person in a relationship is socially acceptable including peers.i would do your own thing if i was you .if shes worth keeping ,dont do it.

    if you feel awkwardness in a general sense that the relationship isnt going t last long ,then its worth seeing more than one person at a time

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