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what should i do take a break ?
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I know this guy for a few years we started speaking back then but he had just broken upwirth his baby momma and i knew they had un finished buisness.......2years later we meet again but i was leaving the country and he told me not to leave but i did i came back 8months later and we started dating its been 3months now. I know the parents very well because they knew my family, ive met his cousins, brothers, we go out we do things like a couple...... he has told me he loves me than hes tooken it back he says he has a wall up and to give him time and stand by him because the wall will be down one day hes scared to get hurt hes told me he fell too fast for me .... hes made it clear i cant go with any other guy and he cant be with anoyone else.
He always calls me foreverything you know were a big part of eacholthers lives just that he tells me toogive him time he doesnt want a girlfriend ?? which i dont understand because its as if we are together he just never said it. TIME IS GOLD. and i dont wanna waiste my time for something that might never be... i told him we need a break so he can take time n figure otu what he wants not to talk to me for a week or more so he can realize if he wants to really loose me but he said no he didn t want a brek and wouldnt let me go that easily
but i can let things be when in reality im not 100% happy because i dont understand why he cnt just commite scared of what ??? i know i have a past n he might b scared ill redo those things but i learned from my mistakes:S:S what should i do ????????? :( should we take time away so he can think about it i am confident he will realize wht he has because i know what im worth to him
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- bossLv 49 years agoFavorite Answer
I think he really does have feelings for you, and that you should give him time, but I also agree that you should go on a break for him to decide what he really wants. He doesnt want to lose you but also doesnt want a relationship....it doesnt make sense to me either haha. I say give you guys a break, or just try to spend less time together because he may feel dependent on you. Just talk it out with him and try to find out what he really wants. Goodluck
- Anonymous9 years ago
Give him the ultimatum.
Tell him that he is either with you or not. No breaks and no "I'm confused" stuff.
If he really loved you like he says he does then he shouldn't feel the need to be confused about commitment. He should just dive in there and hope for the best.
Ask him questions like "he has been committed to you for 3 or so months so what has suddenly changed?" He's told you he is scared of getting hurt but let him now that his current actions are hurting you more than he realizes. It's not fair.
As for the wall stuff? That's a lie. If he knew anything about being in a relationship then that's what helps bring the wall down, hence why people trust their partners after years and years together.
It sounds like he is making excuses. If he can't make up his mind about you then you deserve to find someone better.
- 9 years ago
He probably does have feelings for you, but this guy sounds like a bit of a player (or just too immature to handle a serious relationship) For the time being, I would steer clear. Break up with him and make it official.
Maybe one day you will notice a change in him. That has to be a choice he makes. Until then, you can do better. His behavior right now is just going to hurt you.
Good luck :)
- 9 years ago
He said he loves you but his actions doesn't make any senses. You should decide the best for you, even though he don't want to let you go let that be his problem. Tell him point blank that if he really loves you, he should declare the relationship, if he doesn't want to do that and gives a lot of excuses, just don't waste your time anymore and leave him. Give the most priority towards your happiness. Good luck.
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- 9 years ago
Sounds like a really difficult situation :( my advice would be to pray about it and follow your heart :)
