Love vs Arranged Marriages...?

Hi

I know this sounds strange coming from a woman

but

parents have lived a life, and know what makes a marriage work.

when children are young, the first thing they notice is looks, and sexual attraction

lots of men and women think they are in love, when its just lust.

this is proven now, because, so many get divorced and say , he or she wasn't right for me after all.

parents have an 6th sense, but have to keep their mouths shut and say, my daughter loves him,

even though, he does not have a good job, or had a wife, or children, or has a bad temper.

No, Arranged Marriages Are Common And If You Are Alright With Your Parents Choosing A Husband/Wife For You Them I Don't See Anything Wrong With It, But If You Want A Love Marriage Then Yes You Need To Find Your Own Husband/Wife, Someone You Know Well, It All Depends On What You Want

Arrange Marriage

As i am also Hindustani(indian) I know what u are actually talking about And with what mentality u asked this Question as i also get such query firing in my brain how will i be getting my bride.Will that be arranged or i will fall in love with some etc.

But i got to say to you arranged marriage are more robust where as love marriage are as robust as love but too much of freedom is shared between the life partner that some way or the other ones freedom becomes kind of headache for other.In arranged marriage u can discuss some new things with the partner about what u like and how i want to be in future and where i see my self.

the common myth in every ones mind about arranged marriage is ( which was earlier true but not now a days) that parents find a guy for girl or vice versa and they just decide between them self for wedding without concerning to their children.This is completely false now Today parents do find guy but they tell their daughter to talk to guy and for temporarily give verdict and after that they allow them to go together somewhere for spending time with each other alone so that they can understand well and know how opposite person is Because u can't hide your true nature for long time and then say what u want to do Yes or NO

SO i think arranged and love are both good but if u are not in love than do choose arrange one but scan the boy for his nature by going out somewhere together.

and if u are in love with someone than u must be knowing the person at u r best but then future freedom like not giving u time like a wife needs just considering u as friend and always behaving like friends what i feel is Pati patni relationship is well above friendship.

But yes if u know all aspects of love then love marriage would be joyful future journey for you.

Love gives u a special name but arrange marriages works more than love

I think that you should go with love, because if you are in an Arranged Marriage then you aren't necessarily in love, and love is one of the most important things in life. So I feel like you should go with love. Love is hard to find but once you find it, it's amazing. It's like gravity isn't holding you down anymore, it's them. You would do anything, be anything for them. Love isn't something that can be forced, and you cant go looking for it. It's called falling in love for a reason: You don't make yourself fall, you just fall.

I hope this helps :)

Love

It's the culture difference, westerners don't like the idea of someone else picking out who they marry, and are typically more independent and personal-freedom oriented.

FTWman says do what you want

ok.. what does WTF mean? and some people even in love or arrange marriages still cheat and fall in and out of lust

i hate both. you start losing yourself. you become a different person. you dont care how you look.