I Need To Know If I'm In The Wrong?

you email her

hey alexis, we have selected a bridesmaid dress!!

here is the link

i was thinking that you and brittany could wear the dress in blue and raven will be wearing it in red.

please order by 2nd of feb so that there is time for alterations.

thanks for taking part

see you soon your name

It's your wedding. It's usually the practice for the bride to have the final say on the dresses. That's why there are so many jokes about bridesmaids' dresses because often the bridesmaids hate them and they can never wear them anywhere else.

You could have Alexis wear the same color dress and style as the other bridesmaid. They would match. That could be cute. Or, if the dress comes in a 3rd color you could have Alexis wear a 3rd color. That could also be nice.

Either way, it's your wedding. You will be keeping the pictures that will be taken that day so you get to choose how to dress the people in your wedding party. It's your call.

By the way, back in the old days it was an honor to be asked to be in someone's wedding. I hope your friends see it that way nowadays.

Hi Congratulations. I'm getting married the week after you! I've had to deal with some of the same issues. The advice I've taken is: It is your day, not anyone else's. Don't expect everyone to feel the same passion that you do. Some people may have money issues, or may have a reason for not being enthusiastic about participating. Try to find a way to let her out if she's not interested. If you feel she truly wants to be a part, tell her what dresses you will be wearing and allow her to get it herself with the understanding you have to have everything done by a specific date (make the date earlier than you actually need in case she is a procrastinator). Either way let her know you will have no hard feelings if she just doesn't feel she can do it. Tell her you have other things she can do if she would be more comfortable. Good Luck and don't worry!

theres nothing wrong with picking the dress for your bridesmaids. Sometimes they arent giving any options at all.

I would just nicely say that you are sorry she was unable to make it to any of the shopping trips, but you as well as the other bridesmaids have decided on this dress. Then you can either tell her what color to get it in ( i would suggest the same color as Brittany, so Raven stands out as the maid of honor or a completly different one. It would be weird for the MOH having the same color as a BM but with one BM different.

If you do go with a 3rd completley different color, let her pick it out, that was she has some say. But you did all you could to get her involved and she chose to not come. If she has a huge issue, she can explain to her brother why she doesnt want to be in the wedding

there is nothing wrong with picking the dresses.

Confront her outright, she may not feel comfortable being in your bridal party or she may not be able to afford the dress. Give her the benefit of the doubt before you do or say something that may cause a rift in your future family. As far as the dress goes you know what style and color you want and have probably gotten both dresses at the same shop so they should be able to get her one once you have resolved the issue.

Ure already being nice by letting them choose. Many brides expect their BMs to wear the exact same dress. Tell Alexis too bad she's wearing what everyone else is wearing. If anything the MOH should be the only one with a different dress.

Say since its so close to the wedding and if there needs to be alterations a decision has been made and here is the dress and send her the link. Like it or not, its not her wedding and she needs to fall in line.

Yes send to her and just write something softer like,' I so wish you could have been with us to select but anyway, here is the final choice of dress. ' That way you remind her she did not help and inform her. No way does a brridesmaid get to choose the dress.

I would definitely make sure everyone coordinates colors for your Big Day. Send the girl the link.

Tell her what to wear period. Send her the link to the dress of your choosing, the cost and the deadline to order. If she has to work, she has to work period. No need to dramatize or assume that everyone will drop their jobs to try on dresses with you.

She no longer has the option to choose it herself, so make a decision. tell her what to wear and be done with it already.

Good luck