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Wedding Shower Question?
The bride lives 4 hours away. The bride's grandmother is giving a shower here and we've got the gift already and are going to go. We've also been invited to the second shower, 4 hours away the following weekend. I don't think we are obligated to go to that one. I think the shower 4 hours away is for the bride and groom's friends there.
To me, the invitation to the second shower is inappropriate and seems a little greedy.
What do you think?
It isn't an oversight. My sister-in-law is the bride's other grandmother. There is an overlap in the guest list. I will give the bride benefit of a doubt and no call it greedy or poor taste but an oversight on the part of someone else who doesn't know better.
I thought I was correct. The clerk at the store where the bride was registered and we bought the gift did not think it was proper either.
10 Answers
- MessykattLv 79 years agoFavorite Answer
It's not bad to have two showers if they're freely offered, but it is VERY bad to have overlap on the guest lists. And it's for the reason you mentioned - it's extremely greedy. I don't know what people are thinking sometimes!
- KellyLv 79 years ago
Should you attend both, you are only obligated to give a gift at one. Personally, I would only attend one of them.
The second invite may be an oversight that they didn't realize you had already been invited to one of them.
Though personally I think one shower is sufficient. Multiple showers may be due to the distance or its not unheard of for the grooms side to throw one in addition to the one the brides side does.
- SamanthaLv 49 years ago
I think it's greedy, even if it was offered. If I were the bride and my friends and family suggested to me to have a second shower id decline and say one is enough.
Just go to one.
- Anonymous9 years ago
I don't think it sounds "greedy," but I'd say that if you are already going to ONE shower, there's not a point in going to another one for the same person.
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- CarolineLv 69 years ago
You're not obligated to go to either shower.
I do think any given guest should only be invited to one shower. Multiple shower invites does look awfully greedy.
- diamondcollectorLv 79 years ago
driving 4 hours for a bridal shower is insane. driving four hours and attending two showers for the same bride is doubly insane.
- mooseLv 79 years ago
I think one shower is enough. Usually when you get an invitation to an event you can't attend you are supposed to send a gift. But since you are bringing a gift to the first shower I would say that should be enough.
- barthebearLv 79 years ago
I would just look at it as a oversight and hope it is not greed based. Just decline and dont send yet another gift.
- 9 years ago
talk to ur mother
i really need your help please
