Finding it hard to trust men again as a single mother dating...?

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Im a single mother to a wonderful 3 year old girl. Just as a bit of back story, me and her father divorced last year, because he met someone else, and was generally not a very good husband or father. He only wants to see her once or twice a month, which is another issue in itself.

Recently I met a wonderful guy, who is gorgeous and very fun, and obviously knows im a single mother and is very understanding. The problem is, I am finding it hard to trust him. I dont think he has alterior motives, but I cant understand why a gorgeous fun etc guy would WANT to date a single mother. Am I missing something?

I only get (as I mentioned above) a couple of nights "off" a month by myself, and it seems unfair to get into a relationship with anyone. 

Any thoughts or opinions?

evil Hesh · Accepted Answer

yes, you are missing something. something important. HE REALLY LIKES YOU!

stop thinking of him as your ex and give him a chance. let him show you how much he loves you without looking for problems or lies. just relax and go with it. not all guys are bastards and the sooner you realise that the better your love life will be.

Alyssa · Answer

I may not be single, or a mother (though I want to be, I'm a little too young for that now.) but I can understand how you feel. It isn't unusual to be a bit wary towards men after someone you loved fell in love with someone else. You're probably asking yourself, how do you know that this guy won't do the same thing? My suggestion is to just take it slow, and this guy might not think he is good-looking, even if he says it.

Anonymous · Answer

If he is such a wonderful guy, try to build trust with him. Take things slow and talk to him about things.

Anonymous · Answer

It's reasonable to be paranoid.

If he's getting you to pay for things ... then sadly, you have an answer.

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