need advice, scorp/scorp relationship?

I'm a Scorpio in a long-term relationship (several years) with a Scorpio. I can't tell by Sun Signs if both of you have all the "typical" Scorpio traits and you don't say what the fight was about - small or big issues - but usually Scorpios don't want the advice of outside people especially in personal matters and tend not to listen to that kind of advice anyway. Whether they admit it or not, they know their faults and don't like having those faults exposed to and analyzed by a stranger - particularly the men. So his refusal to go to counseling is understandable in that sense. But what I think you need to be concerned about is the fact that you feel you need to turn to counseling at all. Based on just what you've written above, this guy sounds as though he cares for you but doesn't seem ready for a committed relationship, much less marriage. I think he might know this and now he's thinking, conflicted. Trying to force a commitment, even if he gives in, is not going to result in a happy ending. That total commitment has to come from him in order for his heart and soul to be fully invested in this relationship. So all I can tell you is to wait until he decides - if you can't wait, then you need to ask yourself whether this relationship is really the one for you for the long term. When you talk to him, you should do it person - texting shows you nothing about how the other person is really feeling. It could also be that you two moved too quickly in your relationship and should, if possible, start the relationship over and go more slowly.

IMO, he's trying to figure out what you DO want. You said you "don't want to live together or be engaged".. so clearly you don't want to be with him.. or at least you don't want to progress in your relationship, but then you said "but I don't want to wait on you.. only to be abandoned altogether." so you don't want to stay where you are in the relationship. If your relationship isn't advancing and isn't staying where it is, then you're breaking up. That's a big event though and you didn't actually say you're breaking up, but you also said that you're "soul mates" and soul mates don't break up. Basically, it sounds like your confused and you're sending confusing signals that he's now struggling to figure out.

P.S.:

I'm sorry. I just thought that when you said you want don't want to "live together or be engaged", you probably mean that you want to get be married. In his mind, being married IS "living together" and being engaged has to take place before being married. Anyway, my point was that you have to be clear about what you want and I think that point is still accurate. He probably doesn't want to talk to a councilor because he thinks your problem can be solved by the two of you.. and to some degree at least, even if you go to a councilor, the problem exists between the two of you and only the two of you can fix it. At the same time, if you feel strongly about speaking to a councilor and he decides not to do so, that's simply making the problem worse.

Also, when he said "yes, my love remains, as will my word.", "my word" didn't really mean his love for you. He had already said his love remains. What he was talking about was his promise to love you and be faithful to you, which he made when you got engaged. Although he may not have really known the words, he was talking about marital fidelity, a different kind of love. I think you might admit that saying to someone that you love them forever and want to be with them forever even when you're arguing with that person takes balls. You should stop focusing on how difficult your declaration was and what that declaration says about your relationship, and think more about how difficult his reply must have been and what it means for your relationship.