my girl friend cheated on me should i give her another chance?

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Me and my gf are both 19 years of age. Shes my first girlfriend and im her first boyfriend. As of today we been together for 4 months we hang out practically everyday for the majority of the day. When we first met we were both virgins 3 weeks into our relationship she decided it was time for her to experience sexual intercourse for the first time. It went well but about a week later she gets out of work  at midnight and she has no where to stay instead of contacting me a co worker of her tells her she can sleep at his place "you can probably tell where this is going" the guy who invited her to his house is a tall muscular looking guy "attractive" i guess? Well he takes a shower at his house and my gf feels as if she needs to take one too because she just gout out of a long day of work. Well the guy offers to give her a massage and soon enough she tells him "do you have a condom" so the have sex with the guy and thats that. i forgave ger but now recently more then ever its been bugging me of why she did it. She told me the guy hurt her and she was afraid to tell him to stop and she said it wasn't worth it. Now im planning on leaving her but of coarse we love each other to death and i really dont want to do that. I know this is my first relationship but trust me we freking cant live with out one another! I have an engagement ring but i dont plan on getting married just yet. if i leave her it will be her loss she would have lost the best thing that ever happened to her. There's 3 kind of people  on this earth douche bags, nice guys, and me. Im what you would call "the one" and trust me when i say i know what im talking about. So what do you guys have to say?

Sue C · Accepted Answer

I feel IF she truly loved you & cared about you, she NEVER would have moved in with another guy at all. This is NOT a good sign to me. I would put away that engagement ring & give it to a girl who ONLY wants YOU & NO one else. Her signs are clearly showing this is NOT what she's doing. There are far tooo many out there who are willing to love YOU & ONLY you with NO one else in the picture. Think hard & seriously about ALL involved. I don't feel she's the rite one for you for you sake...the best to you...:)

? · Answer

Well, if there are 3 types of guys on the planet, and you are the "one" type, then you should realize something: this girl cheated on you after 4 months. 
4 months dude. 
I hear of women cheating after 4 years of marriage, because they have kids, their husband is at work, and they are bored. 
but 4 months?

I honestly think you should dump her. Why didn't she call you after her work? A co-worker? How well did she even know that coworker? And its a coworker that she did find sexually attractive? There is being stupid and cheating (like getting drunk with a bunch of guys) and setting yourself up to cheat (like what she did). 
This girl isn't worth your time. If you truly believe you are in that other small group, then go find yourself a girl that will take care of your heart. This girl already broke it. Would you trust her with it again? Would you trust her after another 4 months of relationship to not cheat on you?

Save yourself the second heart ache, and go through it now. Dump her, and find a better girl. Trust me, they do exist, and they will be a great girl to find. Once you find one, hold onto her.

Yummumm · Answer

Umm.....
1. She cheated in you and its hard to gain that trust again
2. A person with your ego n attitude ( i am the best thing happening to her, one of a kind etc) she will never be able to gain ur trust again and u will always think u r superior to her 
 
If you guys really love each other so much then there are lots of compromises to be made from both sides

Wthr to break up or not its u guys who have to decide

Anonymous · Answer

so she told you that she asked him if he had a condom really and your her first sounds like ur in a really bad situation i had a boyfriend who cheated on me promised never to do it again and found he did it 7 more times. your young and there r diseases out there and sleep with may different ppl doesn't help. i thin its gonna be hard for u to trust her and having no trust whats the point. its gonna eat at you bet you start asking what shes doing and who shes talking to or why is she talk to that guy at work. ur 19 u can do better

? · Answer

I would leave her. Once a cheater, always a cheater! She should not have put herself in such a high risk situation, but she did. She should not have let her give her a massage either, but she did. So what makes you think she will not do it again, knowing you will take her back? Remember she cheated on you not the other way around. If you were so important then she would not have done it.

Anonymous · Answer

I personally think you should break up with her...  Even four months can be a short while and if she's already cheated I can't imagine things getting any better as these things lead to arguments and trust issues etc.

Kenneth · Answer

**** no. Within a week of losing her virginity to you she banged some juicehead. This is not a good sign at all. I know you love your girlfriend but she was a whore. Find someone worth you and your love

kitkat · Answer

She is not going to marry you. She is young and is going to continue to experiment with different men. Why would she want to settle down when she has just discovered her womanhood? She's not. You better prepare yourself because she won't be with you forever.

Isn&#39;t she lovely · Answer

Well for one, she doesn't "love you to death." She's a dirty slut as a matter of fact. How can you still be with her. She's disgusting. YOU'RE disgusting if you stay with her. Have some self respect. Yuck.

S C · Answer

I believe in second chances.. I gave my bf a second chance after he cheated on me.. 

You think too highly of yourself!! Put yourself in check..

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