how to face falling in love?

How to face falling in love? You don't fall in love, you make yourself in love, from knowing/ practicing how to really love (to practice True Love concept the fullest).There is no such thing when we meet a girl, we can say, she is "the one". In fact, most people in the world (including me) are confused by the wrong meanings of True Love-this is the fault of the media. "I think I have found my True Love". "I fell in love with her at first sight". Even Jane Burns understands, in the movie ‘Dan in Real Life’:”Dad, love is not a feeling, it’s an ability”. True Love is not a thing/ person/ feeling; it’s a divine concept of living. Only from living it (an ability), can we truly enjoy the power of it (a divine feeling).

There is no such thing when a man meets a gorgeous woman or vice versa, they can suddenly feel head over heals for each other, that they think they are so much in love. They might feel that way (the man cannot stay away from the thought of her hot body/ beautiful face), but that feeling is not True Love. That feeling is just infatuation/ liking/ lust. There are only 2 kinds of love in this world (as abilities, not feelings). True Love is a perfect concept, created by God, as a manual for humans to live a truly happy/ complete life, where you love other people (your girlfriend/ wife/ children) more than you love yourself. Self-Love, or Selfishness, is the concept created by the Devil (Fallen Angels) to steal people from the very joy of life, where you love yourself more than you love others. Only by understanding and practicing True Love the highest, can anybody feel the highest level of being in love (a divine feeling).

Only a few people in this world are blessed enough to find their soul mates (the Ones). They are selected because they are close to God, or God has watched and selected them since they were born. Those soul mates believe in the idealism. Those soul mates are usually almost perfect. Their understanding about love is the highest (True Love). Because "soul", from the word "soul mate", is a divine concept, just like True Love. "The soul at its highest is found like God, but an angel gives a closer idea of Him. That is all an angel is: an idea of God"-Johannes Meister Eckhart. Those soul mates (True Leaders) are very mature, unselfish, wise. God usually has a plan for them, to carry out His mission in this world: to glorify His name, to help other people, to create happiness in others. Their principles are the highest kind.

But people like us, including me, we are not that blessed. Most of the ones (boys and girls) we meet are usually not so perfect. Most people in the world don't understand the concept of True Love. We think we do. But in reality, we don't. The proof? The divorce rate in America is more than 50%. What does that tell you? More than 50 % people in America do not understand True Love. High divorce rate proves: they understand the other concept more: Self-Love.

People like us, the-not-so-blessed ones, "the One" comes from within us, especially from the men's side. It's about for us men to find all the ways to understand how to truly love (to be the True Leader in loving), the highest conception of loving, True Love (True Happiness, True Marriage True Leadership, True Parenting, True Relationship, True Purpose of Life, True Passion, True Faith in God, Kingdom of Heaven), for us to find anybody whom we can truly love (practice True Love with), and by doing so, we would feel the happiest, most complete and most powerful (this is the divine feeling).

To conclude, finding "the one" is not about finding a person out there, it's about finding our greatest capacity to love within ourselves, to become a True Leader in loving, to know how to truly love (to practice True Love) to others. One important element of True Love is True Leadership. Love/ relationship/ marriage is like dancing. One has to lead. The leader has to know both his steps and her steps, while the follower needs to know only her steps, so the leader can lead the direction in that dancing, for both of them to truly enjoy and see the true beauty of a particular dance (relationship, marriage, parenting, etc).

God wants men to be that True Leader. If they cannot, then the women can be. The men have to be more mature, more unselfish, more loving, wiser than the women, so the men can lead their differences into one vision, for any relationship to work beautifully and perfectly. Men have to be willing to give 4 loves to women, as True Leaders by examples, even though they get only 1 love back from the women. The men have to study their character to be acceptable/ workable for their woman, and to study the woman’s character to be sure it is understandable/ workable for them, more than the woman’s understanding about them. Meaning, men have to work harder than women, in terms of loving.

God bless you and all your family.