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How should I approach this situation? I need advice. 5 points?
I spent sometime with my grandmother yesterday. I stayed up all night with a family friend (he took care of my grandparents while they were sick for years) he's about 17 and I'm 21. So we talked he asked me about personal stuff like where I lived and what I weighed, if I wanted to get married, my age etc. I thought that he was prying. We also talked about anime, favourite shows. Then we were waiting on a movie to start and then out of nowhere asked me if I want to have sex with him because he was bored. In my mind I'm like what the f***? He seemed kind hearted because he took care of my Grandparents. This came as a suprise to me.
So I said no twice. Seriously he asked twice? Then proceeded to ask again if he could kiss me. Now I really love my Gran and want to visit her. I have principles no sex before marriage. Granted that my grandfather died a year before in the house he was a christian that stood for values. And my Grandma was sleeping in two rooms down from where we were. He also said that he liked my cousin because she was really nice etc. She just came from England to spend some time with our Grandma.
What should I do if I see him? Because I have to visit my grandmother she's sick. I mean he's still to me a kid.
1 Answer
- 9 years agoFavorite Answer
1, this person does not respect you in any way shape or form.
2. they have not principles
you should point out to this boy that you found his requests very offencive. and take into consideration that it is not you he is attracted to but sex. I understand that he is being very nice to take care of your Grandma but that does not excuse his manner or behaviour. beside this is not about your religious view is about your respect for yourself as a woman.
1. Tell him that you very much appreciated that he is there for you Grandma
2. Tell him directly that you are not interested
3. Tell him that he should show more respect especially in your Grandma's house
4. Tell him that he should respect you as person and not a sex object
5. Tell him directly that he made you feel very uncomfortable and you here for your Grandma not him
6. Remind him that he is here for you Grandma not himself
7. Tell him he is a family friend and his behaviour the other night is seriously stepping over that boundary.
8. Remind him that sex is something that is special between two people who are very much in love, or married. and something that should not be done on the spare of the moment to relieve tension. boredom or desire.
9. (this one is up to you).. Tell him that if he can't manage and respect these things then you and he cannot be friends. as friendship is about trust, honest and respect.
I hope this helps you a bit
