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Your thoughts on this friend?

Alright, suppose you're an 18-year old guy and you've moved away from your old town several months ago. You've tried to keep in touch with your best bud, but he generally doesn't respond to most attempts at contact. That's fine, you don't care too much, life goes on.

You also work in a gorcery store and work anywhere from 40-50 hours a week, so needless to say time off is a rare thing. To your surprise, after a stretch of wroking eleven days in a row, your boss is giving you Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday off. You plan on visiting your old town during this break, and figure you and your friend could hang out at some point during this time.

Knowing your friend uses Facebook quite often, you message him one day, telling him you're coming out Thursday evening and staying until Monday evening, so will he be around, and if so perhaps we could chill?

Days later your friend has not responded to your question, not saying like "Yea, sounds good." Or even "No, sorry, plans all weekend."

This bugs you just a bit because it seems your friend has left you hanging.

Then, just for the heck of it, you text your friend and strike up a convo. You mention you're heading out that way tomorrow. He says he might be busy, but if he's not he'll definitely touch base with you.

What would be your thoughts?

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  • 9 years ago

    Happened to me too and they purposely ignore your calls and msg. I'd say just give it some time and see because everyone has their own life and might not have time for you now. What was once your best friend may distant away from you for a couple of months or even years. If you think it's worth the wait then don't do anything drastic. I eventually got some of those friends back and there were no harsh feelings because we did enjoy every moment we spent together so that's all that matters.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    well, to me it's normal. My best friend exactly does those things you do to keep in touch with your friend. And like your friend, I do not respond most of the times. It's because I am too lazy to respond. the last time we went out was already months ago. and we see each other very rarely. but that doesn't mean i love her any less. She knows it, and I don't have to explain. I first knew her when I was 9 and now I am 19. we were classmates the last time during our fourth year of high school, and now we're fourth year college students; and I could even count how many times we managed to see each other during these 4 solo years, yet I still don't reply to her text messages. That's because I am stupid. but I love her to the end. and I know she feels it despite all I have been doing and all I have never done.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    i know exactly how you feel ive been in the same situation. as hard as it is try notto take it personally. Deep down he might of just pushed you away because he is sad you are gone.

    He might of told you he might be busy because by if chanceyou didnt get around to see him he could act like it is no big deal.

    wait til your home and hit him up and see if he will chill. If he is busy that day tell him your plans are totally open and to callyou anytime so you two can hang out andthat you wouldreally like to sede him.

    if he does ditch on you then work on letting that friendship go, he might of jsut moved on from that friendship.

    good luck kid

  • 9 years ago

    Honestly dude he is just ignoring you and quit frankly being an a**. If you tired to get in contact with him multiple times there is no way he did not get any of them. And if he is ignoring you then he is not a real friend. Maybe you did something to upset him. Or maybe he is just an a** and doesn't give a s***. But you should just ask him straight up what the deal is.

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  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    If the objective is to just to apply the different on your guy or woman benefit and entertainment, then decide for it! 2 human beings agreeing on making use of the different for his or her very own means would not sound very ideal or "loving". yet while that's what you're into then who am I or everybody else to provide up you! the only down area, it variety of feels, is that it may no longer end properly. yet sturdy good fortune!

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    I have a friend like that. I find that it's best to not take it personally and if he wants to chill then he'll give you a call.

  • 9 years ago

    He just doesn't give a sh*t. Tough sh*t bro. Maybe he has a gf or something? Who knows. A true friend IMO would STILL keep in contact with you even when you were outta town. I know I would. Let him know.

  • 9 years ago

    Forget about him for a day or two then call him. That way you know that he knows you're talking to him and he can't ignore you xD

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    BLAST HIM ABOUT DIRECTLY AND SAY WHAT YOU'VE SAID HERE. And in all probability, get rid of him.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    Heroin, yo' need a new (junkie) pal, man. Can't yo' see it YET?

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