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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 9 years ago

would you trust them again who broke your trust many times?

should i trust that person again who had hurt me and broken my trust more than 3 times??

please help.

i don't know what to do :(

no funny answers please..thank you.

Update:

@REBEL : why can't u be kind? it's non of ur business....

and this question is not about what you think.....sorry...thanks!

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Normally I wouldn't.. Three times is just way too many times.. It takes a lot to rebuilt trust, you have given him 3 chances already and yet he has hurt you over and over again.. You have to reflect to yourself.. How important is that person in your life? Are you willing to sacrifice yourself for him? Are you willing to get hurt? To take that risk again?

    As I said, I wouldn't do it.. However, if it is family or a very good friend, I am willing to trust them again. I would forgive them if they show they are sorry for what they did. But if it is just "a guy" he would have to do a whole lot to convince me to put my trust on him ever again.. Because if that guy respected me, if that guy loved me, he wouldn't have broken my trust in the first place. Certainly not three times.. I would think he takes me for granted and that he doesn't care about my feelings. Trust is a precious thing, people have to "deserve" it..

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    The answer is in your heart. How you can trust a person who has broken you trust time and again and hurt you a lot. Now if you again trust him it will be your blunder mistake and you will not be able to forgive you through out your life. Because, you can't hope reliability from that person any more. Your further trust in him will hurt you to that extent, that you will not be able to trust any one else in future Please whip out every thing you have in your mind in his remembrances and forget him for the entire life. One thing I must tell you that, this person does not deserve a GIRL LIKE YOU. Never in his life. Leave him at once and brake off all relations. If in future he wish to return to you say him Good bye.

    Source(s): ever feel
  • Doreen
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    I think it depends on if you are with him because you KNOW you are with him because you are secure, healthy human being who will ultimately benefit, learn and grow from this partnership. There are times in partnerships where a person will lash out and hurt you and make the wrong choices due to issues they are sorting through. Which brings me to my next point, was there ever love and respect from him in your relationship and this is a new thing due to him trying to learn, grow and work through past issues? You need to have resolved why he cheated in the first place, perhaps go and talk to someone... Also, do you really truely believe that he does love and respect not only you, but himself and this relationship? Are you with him because you would rather be with someone that treats you like **** than alone? If the answer is NO and YES, dump him. If he has cheated in the past and you both feel you can make this work in the future, he has to realise you have a RIGHT to distrust him and he has to realise he has to EARN your trust. However, if you can't ever trust him, why make yourselves go through all this? Relationships are work, he needs to start putting in overtime and you need to make sure you're doing your part too.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    Certainly not. But by trusting, you are going to be happy, then trust him again. At the most, it will be one more time. In life compromise is the key to happiness. The question indicates that you are willing to trust him again but doubts are lingerings in your mind by his previous actions.Give him a chance. Getting hurt is sometimes better than not getting any thing. What you say?

    All the best.

    Source(s): My experience in life and study of Psychology.
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  • 9 years ago

    Neva Eva trust them...

    I had been in a situation kinda your's, few years back.

    It also depends on the relationship between you and that person and the importance you give to it.

    For me, its my gf and she was cheating me time after time, with her brother's friend and other boys. I was very tolerant and excused her everytime I caught her with her 'boys', 'coz I love(d) her very much and Trusted her. But, again & again she cheated me, not 1-2 times but many times for nearly 6 years. So, I finally thanked her for making a fool outta me & gave up.

    You have to decide the number of chances you can give.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    If the trust has been broken so many times means no trust again...

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Everyone deserve second chance bt, if she/he has broked ur trust many times. Then, u should nt give him/her any more chance. Because it becomes an habit to them. I would say dnt give anymore chance to them since u had been in difficult situation in past from them nd dnt give chance once again. Nd it depends upon which topic it is. If u want to give one more chance think thrice nd take the steps .

    I hope it was helpful :) .

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    It sucks but im dealing with exactly what your going through. Its hard but if you really care about this person then i would say yes give them another chance but don't act like you need this person show him that you don't have to be with him, show him that if he doesn't change you WILL move on and hopefully he will change for good! It worked for me. Hope this helped. :)

  • ?
    Lv 4
    9 years ago

    if that person had broken your heart ,don trust them...many

    answer may confuse you a lot ....

    leave every thing ..ask you heart your mind ,Your soul ..

    am sure that you will be fine after making a good decision

    bye take care ...

    see you ...

  • 9 years ago

    No. Be good enough to forgive the people who hurt you but not stupid enough to trust them again.

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