question about women dealing with miscarriages?

That definitely does not sound normal... sounds like she's depressed and she needs help, someone to talk to. I don't have any kids yet, but i know i want them really bad and if for any reason i was not able to stay pregnant, i would also be sad but i think she is dealing with this whole situation wrong. She is making drastic changes and trying to be someone she is not maybe in hope of something, but that's not correct. Talk to her, try to help.... maybe she will listen.

It's possible you're trying to make it too simple: Miscarriages = life changes.

"Throwing our marriage away against my wishes" sounds a little strange. It is, after all, her marriage too. If she told us her side of this same story isn't it likely she'd have more reasons than the miscarriages for wanting to end the marriage?

I suspsect the marriage wasn't great and she simply wanted out. The miscarriages may have magnified your problems, but I suspect they aren't the sole issue, as you're trying to make them out to be. That being the case, the desire to "recreate yourself" is very, very common when a person is divorcing.

Bottom line, blaming the miscarriages and your wife is a pretty clean and easy way out. But the reality is that there were undoubtedly problems in the marriage before you lost the pregnancies. Talk to her about THOSE problems if you want to understand why she's acting the way she is.

This could be really hurting her inside,she probably thinks shes worthless because she cant have a baby.She is just trying to change everything hoping that she can change the way she feels and the hurt and pain she is feeling.She's trying to change herself into a different person to hide away from the pain that was caused by the miscarriage.Its normal behavior for people who dont want to deal with the problem,she doesnt want to face the problem yet.But sooner or later she will have to.

It sounds over the top, but we all handle grief and disappointment differently. Luckily I only had one miscarriage, that was hard enough. I had an Aunt who had about 4 before they figured out what was wrong and were able to fix the issue.

No because of the fact the female's physique is plagued via hormones and changes have been occurring. So it''s no longer purely that a potential toddler is long gone. i've got no longer experienced this yet i think of it would matter how some distance alongside the female grow to be, how badly the guy grow to be affected, and if the toddler grow to be planned. If it wasn't planned i won't be able to incredibly see that it would impression him plenty.

miscarriages can make women feel inadequate...

she probably has ptsd and has the mindset that she needs to change everything to be good enough.

she might just want a whole new life to forget about what she sees the miscarriages as "failures"...

they take a huge toll on the body emotions and mental state.

im sorry. :/

for some? yes

having a child, is a fundamental thing for a woman

a miscarriage is very traumatic, & sad

to have it happen twice is devastating

perhaps she feels that "the woman she was" wasnt enough, so is reinventing herself in the hope she will move on

I think that is extreme. She can't fix the miscarriage so she's "fixing" everything else.

She might just be using it as an excuse to leave but that would be cold blooded.

Aw...she's hurting really bad. She is trying to fix everything in her life that she can because she can't fix the child loss. God bless her.

Everyone grieves in different ways.