Is she using her family as a shield?

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My girlfriend and I have issues and we have agreed to work them out. One of the biggest ones that I have is that she spends almost the entire weekend either at church or with her family. I like that she is close to her family. The issue is that she will go out with them and then come back horribly late and cancel a date with me or worse yet, set up a date and then cancel it altogether to go with her family an hour before the date. I am bothered by this because she will not, under any circumstances, cancel a night out with family to be with me but she would not think twice to cancel on me to be with them. 
She is 22. Is this normal? Is she trying to get me to break up with her? It's been two weeks since we have gone out as a couple. Most of the time its just us meeting up at her place.

yosistamarissa · Accepted Answer

That's great but definitely not normal. Most people would rather spend a lot less time with their family. The fact that she always cancels on you is not acceptable and you need to talk to her about how important you are in her life because obviously she is more desired in your schedule than she thinks to spend time with you. Also, does she ever think to invite you to spend time with her family as well? You guys should work out a system where she only can cancel on you once every two weeks or maybe even once a month, unless there's an emergency or something. Spending time with your significant other is a very important part of a relationship. You guys are not long distance so you need stop acting like it and pull through with your plans or else your relationship will deteriorate. Be sincere and tell her it really bothers you because you care so much about her and want to see her more. If she still goes on with the nonsense, she probably isn't mature enough for a serious relationship. Good luck! (:

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