Guys: what do u think..My boyfriend will take a vacation to Europe w/out me...I feel disappointed & upset?

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Together for 3 years.
We are in our 30's.

He works at an adult language school where his title is an activity coordinator. basically he takes students out to many activities. He gets to know them after activities as many of them want him to hang out with them. The students are young adults (18-26) from various parts of the world, especially Switzerland (that's where he is going) and come to the US to learn English for 1 to 12 months.

Im sad b/c not only did he not ask me whether i want to go with him but because I feel jealous that he will be seeing people (especially girls) I do not want him to see again (although he keeps in touch with them on facebook). I never met them. I did talk to him and he says its one trip before settling down with me (if we get married).

I contemplated breaking it off with him b/c I do not want to be jealous. He was sad when I mentioned the breakup and gives me space to think. He also stated that if I am jealous because he has friends that are girls, then we should break up. He is right, I am jealous that he has friends that are girls. This is not about cheating. I need to make more friends that are boys...I guess.

Should I feel this way? AM I WAY too insecure?

College Stud · Accepted Answer

It isn't bad to be jealous... you just gotta know where yo draw the line.  If you really trust in your heart he wants to be with you... then go with it.  If your heart is telling you to leave, then make the tough decision and do it.  But keep your head up and be confident in your choice!!

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saywhat · Answer

I don't think so at all. That is a big deal... Maybe if he were just going on a trip, ok yea I can still see why you would get upset. But to a trip where there will be girls he personally stays in touch with? It's ok for ppl to have friends of the opposite sex but to be out of the country with them... Common. And then he says if his friends are a problem than yall should brake up? What kinda love is that... Theirs no sacrifice and its pretty selfish of him too. I bet he wouldn't like for u to go to a country where u know men personally. It's just not right. My bf doesn't have friends that are girls, not because I say so but out of respect and because he doesn't want me hanging out with other guys alone. Doesn't mean were both forbidden to have any interaction with the opposite sex but its about the love, respect, and sacrifice. Hope it helps...

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Guys: what do u think..My boyfriend will take a vacation to Europe w/out me...I feel disappointed & upset?

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