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Is this a bad idea to move in with boyfriend?
Long story short, my boyfriend and his family lost their house and now 8 people and a dog have to find another way to live. My boyfriend and I have dated for almost half a year, but we've known each other about another year before that.
Me and him have built a lot of trust with each other, and we've slept at each others houses before so we know the sleeping habits of each other. From the time that i've known him, he's always honest, he's the most hardworking guy that i have ever met, he never holds grudges or pouts or anything. He's emotionally mature and he's committed. He can keep a job (3+ years) and he's looking for a second one, and he's trying to get into college but he's having a hard time with the finances.
The thing is that I am VERY young, 18 to be exact so technically I'm just taking a first look into the real world. He's 22, so he knows the real world better than I do. I'm comfortable being with him because he would be able to show me how things work in life (and we've talked about all the "what-ifs" happen as in if we broke up). I've worked jobs and paid bills before and stuff. My boyfriend and I talked about moving in with each other but this was towards the end of the year. Considering the circumstances we talked about maybe we should move in earlier than planned. It'd also be with his brother too (which me and him get along with).
I wouldn't move in right away, but we're talking about it. I know my parents and other couples (married) who married each other after less than a year. Moved in with each other after 3 months and stuff. I feel that it's okay right now, but i would like some other opinions and thoughts on this.
Also, if it DOES happen, I wouldn't know how to tell my parents. We'd thought that when I move out, it'd be that i was going off to college or something, but my college is going to have to be on hold for awhile (not because of this whole moving in thing but for many other reasons).
oh, just to add, me and him wouldn't get married and stuff till like way down the road till we both know we're ready. I'm just adding that i know couples who have gone into relationships fast as well.
Thanks Athena. I'm glad you can make a full and educated analysis based on a very vague description on me and my boyfriend's relationship and situation that I described. I'm also happy to see that you can tell my future based on the summed up explanation of the situation that I am in. So thank you, for giving me "advice" that you feel that you can judge and "hit the mark" perfectly from a description that does not describe everything that is going on at the moment. I know I asked for thoughts and opinions but some people on here are inconsiderate of others. You must've had a pretty sad childhood growing up seeing that you feel that your "advice" is OBVIOUSLY correct. Thank you.
Lastly Athena, I would like to say is that you should not be calling people "tramps" or other names when you have never met them. If you feel that I've had sex with every guy that I have dated then you are most certainly wrong. You may choose to believe or to not believe. Think whatever you'd like, but I've only had sex with one person and that is my current boyfriend. Was it my best decision? Probably not. Will I regret it? Who knows. I also know that I am his first and if you ask me "How do you know?" it's like I said, I've built a lot of trust with him over the time I've known him. I've asked him to get checked and I've had myself checked. I'm at least smart enough to get myself on some kind of birth control and use extra protection to at least lessen my chances of being pregnant. I have lots of things planned in my life and I will do my best not to mess it up. You should probably learn to get your facts before making a judgeme
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- Anonymous9 years agoFavorite Answer
I'm 18, almost 19 & my boyfriend is 18. We've been "unofficial" since we were like 12, but "official" since August. I moved out a month after turning 18, in June. The thing was though I moved 2.5 hours away, we missed each other a lot. So we ended up talking about him moving up with me. After talking between us and parents and all the planning, he moved up in October. Our parents told us, oh they'll break up in a month and it'll all be a mess. It's been about 6 months, and we are doing amazing. Not much stress, other than money at times and balancing college and
Work. People will doubt young love, but in our case it's 6 years of young love.
Do what you think is right, if you see it lasting and know what your doing, go for it. If it goes sour, learn from your mistake and move on. We are only human, we all make mistakes.
Source(s): Been there:) - AthenaLv 79 years ago
So, you have no plans to get married, just play house with a guy four years older than you.
No other guys, no other dates, he gets all the free sex and laundry service and you get to pretend you are married.
Am I right so far?
You don't have to grow up, he can be your daddy and protect you from the real world, which is scary and you are just a little girl who need protection.
How am I doing?
He is 22 and does not know how anything in the world works. He is not your "guide to life" he is a horney guy who is looking for easy sex. We are hard on guys. Why do you think some pay for it? It is easier for them then getting into real relationships.
Of course, in your case, well , you won't get paid for it, so I am not sure what people will call you.
So, in a few years, when you grow up and realize this is not the life you wanted, what are you going to tell the "next" guy? That you are emotionally already a divorced women, without actually ever walking down the aisle?
And what about the baby? Low funds, free sex, no responsibility, you ARE going to get KU'd before you are 21. So when it is over, and he has his college degree, and moves on to the coed he met, you are stuck with a tramp reputation, a baby, and no real job skills.
Please remember, you were told all about this before you decided to be stupid.
From this point on, it is YOUR fault. You can't say, "well, I was young."
- atheyLv 45 years ago
As attractive as residing along with your bf sounds, I individually suppose it is a unhealthy thought. What when you men get a divorce? Who gets the condominium, in any other case if you are renting, then who remains and who is going? Also, you would get into arguments and uncover out that you simply particularly do not like this character seeing that they've unhealthy conduct, and so on. This is in particular real now seeing that you are each nonetheless really younger- get to grasp each and every different increasingly as you develop older then possibly don't forget relocating in in combination. Your conduct and methods difference as you develop older so transfer in with him later, when you nonetheless wish to. And the truth that you men will likely be amazing busy implies that if in case you have an examination and he does not, you would uncover him distracting and irritating if he annoys you while you are learning, and vice versa. Besides, is not it funner to devise dates to look each and every different after many years of no longer seeing him?? :D inform him that you simply suppose it is attractive, however seeing that you particularly care approximately your courting and that you simply each have desires to pursue, it is larger to transport in with him later. The satisfactory of good fortune!
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