Husband Cheated and got someone pregnant?

First off please do not even think about suicide. I know it seems as though your life is shattered, but dear you have 3 beautiful daughters who need you. If you did that you would shatter them even more. My best friend committed suicide three years ago and I struggle with that every single day. I can totally understand how you feel about the child, although it is not the childs fault. That child does deserve to have his father in his/her life, however you will need to figure out if you can handle that. At the moment of course it seems unlikely. I would recommend a separtion for awhile to see if you can work it out, if not I would divorce and move on. Do not torture yourself by keeping this man in your life if you cannot forgive him or accept the child. I know that it would be very hard to do, but you need to think of you, obviously your husband was not and you deserve whatever is going to make you happy. In all honesty and not trying to hurt you, but I doubt your husband is truly sorry for what he did, I think it is more likely he is sorry he got caught and got her pregnant. If he was sorry he would not have slept with her for a year, clearly he was enjoying himself or he would have never done it or realized it was a huge mistake the first time. I would report her to the police for harrassment if she is contacting you or your daughters. Another thought-has she proven she is pregnant? Sometimes scorned lovers make stuff up...Did your husband try to leave her? I am not trying to hurt you in anyway, but hon you deserve so much better in life, as do your daughters, there are good men out there and I think this is going to be an extremely hard battle to win. I have been cheated on, and even without him getting another woman pregnant, I cannot forgive him, the reminders are always around, and 6 years later I wish I had never ever taken him back because the trust is not there. Your feelings of hatred are completely normal, but I would suggest therapy for yourself and your daughters. And if you decide to work it out with him, then couples therapy will may help. I wish you the very best and remember, do what is going to make you happy. Your children will not be happy if mom and dad are not happy-just remember that.

*oh dear I am so sorry :(

I feel so bad for you and your daughters.Feeling like your world is shattered is normal, feelings of suicide I suppose might be too.However you have three daughters to think of.A cheating husband is bad enough, but this has been going on for a year,he gets her pregnant then has nerve enough to tell you he wants a relationship with the kid and be with her during the whole process ?

If you accept this the other relationship WILL continue, on his visitation days you will be watching HER kid, and if you don't send him packing you will be working to support HER kid.

Girlfriend, I was married to a cheating dog, for seven years.I have a good idea what you are going through.

All I'm going to tell you is you have to ask your self how much are you going to put up with?If he did it once he will do it again, He's turned his back on his family for other woman and has told you plain as day that he intends on being there for HER.

You are working, so you are not totally helpless, your three girls are old enough to help around the house and are not babies.

So get up, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get MAD. Throw his mangy @$$ out, get a lawyer, take the house, the car, whatever else you and the girls want and nail him for child support.

Then see how much he can give this other woman and their child.

Hang in there.

Honey, I am so sorry. You sound like a great person to have had such a horrible beginning and to have achieved a good life. If that was my husband he would have lost his pair by now. You need a divorce. it will be hard as it seems you still love him, but with this child you won't ever be the same again. When he meets up with the cheat, they could still sleep together. Get rid of him and find someone who makes you truly happy. I would also suggest therapy to help you get over this if time doesn't heal the wound.

Sometimes men are greatful for what they have and it may not be you but sometimes your husband feels like hes trapped because he can have only sex with one women and that he'll be with the same women for the rest of his life but everybody deserves a second chance and its really gonna take some time to get over it and you shouldn't hate the baby i know its gonna be hard to see the baby and not hurt but its not the babys fault that your husbands the father of him/her. I think you him and the other women should all go to a councilor that is for his exact situation because you dont want your kids nor her kid to suffer for your husband's mistake. But really don't let him bring you down look what you have accomplished you cant rely on him your entire life. Dont be upset with your husband because he wants to have a relationship with his kid he wants to do thi gs right dont blane him for that. I know that your goig through hard time my step dad cheated on my .

mom but she forgve him because of her kids if my mom can do it i know you can to. And ill be here whe. You need a friend to tlk to my email is reyna577677@yahoo.com if you have any more questions good luck hope i was helpful!^.^

for a start its not the unborn babies fault that this happened it's your husbands and the other women try a trial separation you all so should not forgive him to easily as it would just make you look like a pushover make him put the effort in if he wants to remain married to you make him realise that it will take a long time for the trust to come back that he has to work hard to prove he will never do this thing again and as much as it hurts it's his child of course he needs to be in her/his life and the "cheat sending hate mail is BV feeling fretting as she knows he loves his wife

Nobody is not worth killing yourself over so get the thought out of your head. If you can forgive him do it but if you can't leave him. He has been sleeping with her for a year which means he doesn't love you. How could he? Then to not use protection with her nor you is completely immature which means he has feelings for this woman too. Does what your heart tells you to do but don't blame the innocent child. They did nothing wrong. He has to take responsibility for his actions.

WELL F U C K HIM. Sorry. Had to throw that out there. I don't have any idea how you should handle that situation. But seriously, the fact that you were able to pull yourself up out of the tough situation you grew up in is proof you can get through anything! And always remember that you have the three best blessings in the entire world to cherish your entire life. Don't take that away from yourself or from them by committing suicide.

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So whats the question??? My comment no way could i put up with the child in my home or my husband being a part of its life. I would simply ask for a divorce.

I don't know maybe its hard for you .. but being thinking about your Daughters you should adjust with your hubby and forgive him for what he did , we all know were not living for this World there is a judgement day , just forgive him he the one GOD(ALLAH) , will sure take a revenge for that , but for now you need to adjust your husband sadly share him with that women , legally by getting another marriage cause that innocent child belongs to your hubby and it's not his fault , so why should we punish him .. ? i guess that makes sense

Is this being a good husband or a bad husband?