Should I ask him why he broke up with me?

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I dont want to make this too long but I was seeing my boyfriend for just over 3 years. We had our ups and downs. Last October I wanted to break up with him and he didn't respect my wishes whatsoever. He sent me love letters, texts, rang me all the time, sent me flowers and tried all sorts of things to change himself. He started seeing a counsellor and even took antidepressants. So eventually after working things out we got back together. Things were going fine, or so I thought, until 3 weeks ago. (At this stage he had been off his antidepressants for two weeks). 

He told me one night as we were going to bed that he thought we just weren't right for eachother and then broke up with me the next day. I dont understand what went wrong and why he would go to all this trouble to win me back last October just to dump me a few months later. I've respected his wishes and haven't contacted him at all but I want to move on with my life now and I don't think I can until I find out why he did what he did. He was so cold and clinical when he broke up with me taht it just didn't feel like him at all. Should I call him to get some closure or just let sleeping dogs lie and try forgot about the why's and if's and just move on with my life?

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Hi Georgina,
Break ups are never easy, especially when they come as a shock. It's no wonder that you're confused, given that he seems to have done a complete 180!
Bear it in mind that withdrawing from antidepressants can have a variety of physical and psycological effects, including anxiety, mood swings, irritability, confusion, paranoia and the return of depression. I am not saying that the withdrawal is the reason why he called things off. Of course it's also perfectly possible to have a change of heart, even after just a few months after desperately trying to win someone back. But given that he had only been off the medication for a few weeks, that could certainly be an underlying factor.
If you have not talked in-length about the break up, and what went wrong between you, then it might be a good idea to do so. You have a right to know why he ended it, especially if you think it might help your moving on process. If you feel that you would be unable to put this behind you until you know what happened, then suggest meeting up so that you can talk about it, as you are struggling with the lack of explanation. 
If you don't receive the desired response, that's when it's time to let sleeping dogs lie.

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The key lies in what you feel for him. is it hatred or love? Or maybe you are just at easy? Ok Fine, if you feel love and stil want him why not ask him? but if you nothing for him, dont even ask him because it might seem as if you are begging him of which it will seem alkward. chao

Kathleen Germany · Answer

Dont ask him .....he is maybe hoping you will do this ........just ignore him and act like nothing has happened ........let him come to you .....I bet you he will.......and if he dont just move on

Anonymous · Answer

u should talk it out wit him fer sure. that'll b the best. I'm sorry. answer mine too?:/

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