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A guy I've just met at the bar, how to text him and make a move. *This is between two men* Wth is he thinking?

My friends and I went to this bar/nightclub sort of place last night. We got there around 12 am and as soon as we got inside, one of my friends who is a guy started talking with this another guy. I'm a guy too and I'm pretty much gay without feminineness, gayness or whatever you call it. This also happened at a straight bar/club and I was the only 'gay' guy amongst all present here. So we all started talking just as guys, like every guy does and I, of course, didn't tell him that I was gay or anything. As the place was fairly busy and there were many people inside, my friends and I just moved around, danced around freely without all being grouped up. The guy that we were talking with, his name is supposedly Alex, and he was still near me. As I was queing up for a drink with one of my female friends, he also came and we were just having a small conversation like where we live, what we do. I found out that he was a professor at this university and his age was 30 but he looked a lot younger. I'm 22. Then we were just playing around, making jokes and whenever I said something funny, he patted my head all smiling and he also held me close to his chest a few times. He also made a joke that he and I were boyfriends. He also kissed on my cheek. After that one of my female friends, Alex and I were dancing on the dance floor, and the girl was between me and him. And he held me really close to his side with the girl in between, (lol) and our faces met really close, so I made a quick peck on his nose then he kissed me over her shoulder. (She then wasn't aware that we did it and knew it afterwards. lol) So at this point I was pretty sure that he wasn't 100% straight and I was confident about it. However he still tried to dance or talk with other girls every now and then, so through the night I wasn't really sure what he was thinking. Overall we spent a lot of time together though. Later into the night, my friend and I found him again on this stair inside the club sitting down and talking with a random chick, so I told my friend not to look at him so as not to make the situation awkward. But my friend said that he was looking at us. So we walked up to him and I blatantly said 'What's going on?', just because all he did was smiling and laughing like he was trying to hide something. Right before we went up to him his friends secretly told me that he was bisexual. That's why I wasn't so afraid to walk up to him like that, because I also felt that he could be. I was also sure there was no way he could be 100% gay either judging from the way he acted and everything. He remained silent about his sexuality but I knew he wanted to say something about it because he kept smiling about it,but he never did. So at the stairs, I told him 'So, is what your friends told me really true?' and he said, 'What did they tell you?' smiling and laughing. So I said, 'You know what it is and I don't have to tell you that', then he stood up and said, 'I'm going to go check what they told you' and he went away. There I was waiting for him to come back but he wouldn't come back, so my friend went look for him. She didn't come back either so I went look for them only to find them talking near the bar. As I was approaching them he looked at me again smiling. I said, 'What are you guys doing?', then he said, 'Tonight I wanted to be with her. I'm sorry.' At the moment I knew I totally screwed up and made a fool of myself, so I said, 'Oh, I'm sorry too!' Because after all these hours he was doing stuff like that to me and now he's telling me that he wanted to be with my female friend? I thought I totally embarassed myself so I told my friend that we should just leave as the place was almost closing. So I said, 'Soo.. good bye!' smiling and backing away. BUT, he followed us to the cloakroom so I again said, 'What is going on here though?' then he just stopped. So I reluctantly disappeared into the cloakroom. As we came out of the room he was still there but I knew he wasn't going to do anything about it so I tried to leave yet a part of me still wanted to stay there. Then my friend said that he was looking at us so I gave it a last shot and walked back to him and said, 'Can you give me your cellphone?' and he did. As I tried to put my number on his phone, he took my phone and put his number on mine instead, then he told me to call him on the spot to make sure it wasn't a fake number. Finished exchanging numbers, I said thanks and tried to go away. So he suddenly, forcibly took my hand and pulled me close to him and kissed me! and kissed my female friend after that too! I was really confused about it but just said, 'I'll speak to you soon!' and quickly went away. Since this morning I've been thinking about it and I really don't know what to do. I defintely want to see

Update:

him again, all the more because I have his phone number, I want to text him. Should I do that tonight or wait more? If I text him how should I go about it? I'm not sure what he's thinking. Any advice would be appreciated. :(

Update 2:

My friend's reaction is positive, but she also said he wouldn't text or call me unless I do it first and I think so too. Given all his behavior throughout the night, I don't think he would have the nerve to make the first move. I'm not really sure if he's that interested in me either, but I'm sure if I make the first move it might rekindle his feelings towards me again, remembering what happened last night.

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  • 9 years ago
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    Seriously? Have you asked yourself why you are attracted to him? Is it because he showed interest in you. Is this the kind of person you really want to have a relationship with? Are you looking for a one-nighter or a meaningful relationship.

    I agree this guy is a player, and I'm wondering if you are too.

    Consider moving on, unless you're just looking for one more conquest.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Wait awhile, of course. It's not like you met him in a church, you met him in a club. You have to play the smooth card for these kind of guys. If you just met him somewhere more casual i'd say text him right now. Well, not right now. It's 1am on a Saturday night!

  • 9 years ago

    Wow , and what is your friend's reaction about it ?

    He sounds like a pro player to me.

    If it doesn't make any difference to u, text him at night.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    good grief...

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