I'm being pressured into losing my virginity?!?

Hi Kittypoo,

No, you should not give him your virginity... and he's probably infested with multiple STD's.

You're not even dating or his GF... and he's already assuming that you'll be willing to engage in intimate sexual acts with him. What has he done to deserve anything intimate? Absolutely nothing. Zero. Zip. Nada.

To be blunt, it actually means that he doesn't want to bother investing any of his time, effort, money, or emotional support on YOU (i.e., to win your heart and become your BF)... but he wants you to immediately start satisfying HIS physical desires.

In other words... he's a wolf who only thinks about you from the neck down (i.e., he doesn't respect you, your body, your heart, your soul, your feelings, your values, your history, your family, your tears, your fears, your dreams, or your future).

What should you do? There are several possible action items for you.

- First, drop to your knees... and thank God that you quickly found out the guy is in reality a selfish horny lazy pig.

- Second, do absolutely nothing intimate or sexual with that jerk.

- Third, maybe you could send him a short text along the lines of "Thanks for the excellent life lesson. It's crystal clear now that I seriously misjudged your moral character. In the future, I'm gonna be much more careful around guys. Please don't contact me again."

- Fourth, find a nice guy who will treat you with dignity and respect.

So... how about some free advice about guys and dating? OK.

Sexual activity is like a fine pearl... i.e., it is valuable and needs to be treated with care and respect. Just like a pearl should never be trampled into the mud by pigs, you should never give your body to a horny guy or anyone else who doesn't love and respect you.

What are some hazards of dating? Here are a few -

1. Watch out for those handsome players or creeps who might pretend to like you, because you could easily fall for their phony attention and smooth lines of crap. Beware - they'll use your body and then dump you like a sack of rotten potatoes.

2. Decide on your physical limits before you start dating, and stick to those limits. Getting too excited while being alone together with your date or your steady BF is not the time to start thinking about setting limits... your judgment will be clouded, and your BF's judgment will be long gone.

In order to protect your tender heart, it's a good idea to be cautious about the types of guys that you would be willing to date... and watch out how you behave, too. Why?

- Because lots of guys tend to be frogs… not princes.

- Because most guys will typically want to go way past kissing if the girl allows it.

- Because many young ladies are simply too vulnerable, too impulsive, and too emotional.

- Because lots of young ladies frequently have poor judgment.

- Because numerous guys are typically only interested in what's in a young girl's panties.

- Because there are guys who don't care about a girl's feelings.

- Because there are plenty of guys who are focused solely on satisfying their own selfish sexual desires.

- Because young ladies tend to equate love with kissing and sex (translation - they get their heart trampled), while most young guys don't (translation - they simply say "See ya later!").

- Because after the inevitable break-up, lots of girls will likely feel as though her world has collapsed.

- Because any older guy who would date a vulnerable young lady is a creep.

Keep in mind that there will be no shortage of people in your future who will gladly take advantage of you sexually, emotionally, and financially... if you are naïve enough and foolish enough to allow it.

Ironically, the jerks are usually the most fun and the best looking. Why? Because there are lots of foolish girls out there who have the following issues:

- No parental supervision

- Lack of a good Dad in their lives, so they readily accept the attention from jerks (because they crave male love and approval)

- Are gullible and easily lied to

- Allow guys to quickly become physical

- Give away their virginity based on the lies a jerk will whisper into her ears

- Don't mind getting treated like crap

- Do not learn from their mistakes.

How can you keep your heart from getting trampled? Keep your panties on until you get married. That'll eliminate 99% of the creeps, losers, and players... and mistakes of passion... which will make your life much happier and simpler in the long run. You'll also be protected against pregnancy, STD's, and excessive heartache.

In closing... don't make too many stupid decisions, don't date jerks, don't drink too much booze or take any drugs, don't have friends who drink heavily or take drugs, listen to your Mom and Dad, read the Bible (the Gospel of John is a good place to start), and then everything will turn out fine.

Those are a few things for you to consider, Kittypoo. Good luck!

Signed, WB

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Ok, I don't know what it is about foreigners, but them boys is freaky.

Anyways, if he's pressuring you into losing your virginity, he is definitely gonna pull a one night stand.

Even if he doesn't, he's gonna end up leaving you.

Resist the temptation no matter how hot he is.

You say "I'm 16 now" as if it's ok to have sex when you're 16.

You made it this far, why not prove stereotypes wrong and not lose your virginity, especially to this guy who's pressuring you into losing it.

I'm 16, I got my own job, car, I have my own money, but I'm still a virgin.

You don't need to lose your virginity to be "grown".

sounds like a one night stand guy to me

Hun your 16!!! I wouldnt do that! But if u really want to just no intercoarse!!! But if u still want to wear a condom FOR SURE!!!

No, don't let him. Wait until you're in love, and eighteen or older.

You gotta get to know him more, give it a while to decide if you really want him to be your first. Could you answer my question? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agozv...

clearly he just wants sex. value yourself enough not to give yourself away to the closest hot guy. tell him to go **** himself!

no u shouldnt he probadly just wants to hit it and quit it

definetly using you.he didnt even bother REALLY gettig to know you, dont let him have the pleasure of thinking , "HAHAHA THAT GIRL WAS SO EASY," ya he is hot but wat does tht matter if he doestn care about you?