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How can I not like him, or is this okay?
Lately I havent been feelin myself. I'm starting to like this guy and I know this is mean. But he's ugly. He is like in love with me. He told my friend that If I said yes to be his gf. He would buy me chocolates and flowers and all that. He is a very sweet guy but I'm kind of shallow. Yes I'll admit it.
The reason I won't date him is because most of my friends would make fun of me. Like when I told my BFF tht I think I like him, he was freaking out. Saying "eewww" and all that crap. And if more of my friends found out. They would like totally make fun. I have this other crush and I don't know why but I'm going to give up on him. And for the ugly guy yes I know looks don't matter but I just don't know. And I have no idea why but I think he has a gf, but I think he's trying to make me jealous and it's working!!
Whenever I think of him. I start crying because I DON'T WANT TO LIKE HIM!
So please what is the best thing to do? Give him a chance?
No rude answers please!!
2 Answers
- Anonymous9 years agoFavorite Answer
You are not shallow, shallow means that you base your entire idea of him solely on his appearance. You being not attracted to him is perfectly natural, it is just your preference. Now that I got that out of the way, if your friends have a problem, then they don't have to date him! People think that in order for it to be acceptable to be attracted to someone, everyone else in their group of friends has to be. If they are going to make fun of you, him, or you two, tell them to knock it off. If they don't, they're s***ty friends. You think you don't want to like him because you friends don't want you to like him. I'll let you in on a secret though, if you really didn't want to like him, you wouldn't! Just like if your friends wanted you to like him, and you said you wanted to like him, if you really didn't you wouldn't!
Now, looks do matter somewhat, but what matters is that he takes care of himself, not his genetics. If a guy is going to look like a slob, he is going to be a lazy slob in his life and your relationship. If you don't like brown hair and he has brown hair, get over it! Looks do matter, but genetics don't (I hope that makes sense). From what I've read, you do like him but you want to be socially acceptable so you don't want to like him for that reason. Give him a chance, it will reveal your true friends, weed out your fake friends, and give you a new and exciting experience. Good luck!
- 9 years ago
The only thing that matters is what you think of him. Why does your opinion mean less than your friends? Why don't you set the standard for what's cool? I know it's hard to see past the superficial stuff and not care what other people think, but you're better than that. If you like him and there are qualities that you like, then go for it and your friends will have to deal with it, otherwise they're not your real friends. And also ask yourself if you like him for the right reasons, not just for the gifts because it's mean to lead him on otherwise. And you can stop yourself from liking someone, I know from experience. Own up to your feelings and do what you want. Hope it all works out for you.
