Do we have a right to feel offended? (Poor wedding etiquette)?

That's messed... and criminal. Yeah, that is something beyond offensive. Impersonation of signature all around forgery... damn, I'm sorry. That's just dirty and low a below the belt hit there that they gave you guys, Rachelle... that's just beyond wrong.

Oh my word. "Poor wedding etiquette" is about as kind as one can put it, as the email your mom's cousin sent (impersonating your unsuspecting aunt to boot) also smacks of incredible gall, dishonesty and underhandedness -- if not also a touch of (uncalled for!) mean-spiritedness. (As for the latter, it is NEVER appropriate, and always unkind, to flat-out inform people they are "not invited" to a wedding -- or to ANY occasion!)

While your mom and her side of the family certainly have a right to feel offended by such boorishness and ignorance, they would be unwise to take this cousin's appalling behavior too much to heart. When people are overly concerned with "money and success," they are in danger of losing some of the most devoted and sincere relationships they can ever hope to have.

What a huge mistake it is for your mom's cousin to alienate relatives that have always been warm towards her and the rest of her family. These are people to feel sorry for, not resent. Not only do they embarrass themselves by seriously lacking the sort of etiquette befitting those aspiring to a certain social station, they also are in danger of finding far less genuine warmth and sincerity among others than they have invariably found on your mother's side of the family.

To truly give a helpful reply there would need to be more context known. Going with the information given, the first thing is that people hosting the wedding in the end get to choose the guests (even when they behave rudely). The second thing is that when someone is impersonated...it makes the whole letter/email void. It was sent/signed under false pretenses so is not valid. Thirdly...to know the truth the best people/person to ask would be the hosts directly. May I encourage direct phone contact (or if geographically close enough..)contact in person rather than using the email route. Wishing you well and thanks to your dad for his service as an RCMP officer.

While you may have the right to feel offended, I don't recommend confronting anyone about your feelings. Look at it this way, you were saved the cost of a gift, the time involved in going to the wedding and reception, and having to hang out with a bunch of people who apparently don't enjoy your company. It's a win, win situation as far as I am concerned. Family weddings are incredibly miserable affairs. I would send a thank you card that says, "Thank you for sparing me the wasted evening." Not really. But, I might daydream about doing it.

My goodness, yes. So. . . there was no announcement? Weird.

To take the time to send out an UNinvite is just. . . wow, mean. If the issue was financial constraints, a simple phone call would suffice, would prevent hurt feelings. If this particular part of the family isn't invited. . . just because? Well, why on Earth send out the email? Coupled with the lack of an announcement, it's almost as if your mother's cousin was *relishing* this "You're not invited" email.

As I said - unless there is a legitimate reason/hardship preventing these folks from being invited, to not invite them is rude. The email announcing this fact - rubbing their noses in it - is insult to injury.

I sure as heck would feel insulted. My word, who *are* these people!

Men and women can also be soooooo silly. I suppose it's unusual to send an electronic mail- hiding in the back of a computer- as a substitute then situation a mobilephone name. It sounds like anybody is making an attempt to stir up challenge. Most mainly numbers of guest have got to be limited. It's really up to the bride and groom who they choose to ask. That you can decide upon to be offended or move on. Your saved from having to purchase a wedding present, they usually lose considering that they did not incorporate loved ones.

yes, very.

You have every right to be offended! I would find it extremely offensive!

Who knows and more importantly who cares...the real question here is...that pic, is that you?