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Why don't men wear engagement rings?

Follow up question: Who CARES why men don't wear engagement rings???

(Ironic suggested category: Beauty & Style > Other - Beauty & Style)

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    i dont care to wear them cus then you always look single and can have sex with many girls on nigts out

  • 9 years ago

    It is a vanity thing to place esteem on the engagement ring. The entertainment world should prove that a bigger diamond does not signify greater love. I am a woman and put little value in the diamond. I valued the wedding bands. As far as a man wearing a diamond engagement ring, it is not necessary since I would be his diamond.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    9 years ago

    It depends, if he has been forcefully engaged in the relationship then obviously he will not just to show his hate for the relationship. Other then this one more reason is, men always like to make them self free from every bond. So that they can flirt very freely with other females showing their status a still single. It's common if any other female see engagement ring in his finger then obviously she wont be in to him... I see only this reason. If anything other than this then it may be the personal reason. As i said if he has been forced to marry someone to whom he doesn't like then he will not wear the ring. Other reason is many males doesn't like to wear rings.. So if that is the case then few of them discuss it with their fiances & mutually agreement happen between both of them.. Only theses things came in my mind. What else? BTW i always wear mine... It's still there in my finger even after one & half year of my marriage.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    I agree.

    I'm a woman and I have never worn or owned an engagement ring. I had a wedding band that matches my husband's. I lost it while planting last year and really need to get a metal detector to find it! I know about where it could be, buried in the ground.

  • Engagement rings were originally seen as a bride price, and not as a symbol or everlasting love. A father would also give away his daughter, because the father owned his daughter and now the husband would own his wife. This is why a woman had to pledge to "love, honour and obey."

    Infidelity also only counted for women. In a biblical sense, only a woman could be an adulterer, and the commandment applied only to women. Men were allowed to have as many wives as they wished. Some religions still believe this. Polygamy is still very popular through-out much of the world. Its just not as popular in western society. The ring was seen a sign of his property, and some rings even featured his family crest, since she would be leaving her own family and joining his family. The Chinese still refer to women as small happiness, because she will join her husband's family.

    A bride price is the equivalent of the dowry that the bride's family pays the groom. A dowry came in the form of money, goods or estate. Only some cultures allowed women to own property, such as viking culture, whereas most other cultures had to hand-down property through their husbands. So, if a woman wanted to retain ownership of that estate, then she would have to give it to her husband, so that she could remain in the estate and eventually either pass it down to her sons or her son-in-law.

    Irish had a Claddagh ring, which was similar to the modern engagement, promise or friendship ring. It was worn on the right hand while single, and then was transferred to the left hand to indicated she was engaged. Also, this was commonly given to her by a figure other than her lover. Mother's usually passed it down to their daughters, or grandmothers would pass it down to their granddaughters Many young Irish women wore the Claddagh ring, on their right hand, with the crown facing their finger-tips as a sign they were single and were looking for love. Once in a relationship the woman would then point the crown towards her wrist. Once engaged, she would then point the crown towards her finger-tips on her left hand, and once married would point the crown towards her wrist on he left hand.

    The modern engagement ring, until very recently was not purchased, but inherited. The groom would acquire either his mother's or his grandmother's engagement ring, and that ring would become his wife's ring. This ring would continue to be passed-on through many generations. Similarly, the brides dress would be handed down to her from her mother or grandmother, and would be shared with many generations.

    The idea that people would even want to buy modern rings or modern dresses, was unheard of, especially because of how expensive they were, and how poor most newly-wed couples were. In some cases, if there were multiple daughters, it would go either to the eldest, or the first to marry.

    The groom simply did not wear one, because of how costly they were, and because the brides mother was not going to give her daughter a ring to present to her groom, especially if she had sons, who the ring would be passed down to.

    Not all marriages, even to this day occur for love. Arranged marriages are still very popular, even in countries, like India, where they are now technically illegal. The nation doesn't really enforce the law, and many people still agree to arranged marriages. The idea that a husband would wear a ring, suggests more affection, and this is not really the case, in all marriages, even modern-day marriages.

    One reason its considered bad luck to see the bride on her wedding day, is because some grooms would leave, if they saw the bride. A bride also wore a veil, until she was officially wed, to conceal her face. A groom didn't always know which woman he would wed, especially if there were multiple available sisters in a family.

    Some cultures use wedding dresses and rings for other customs too, such as baptism or another right of womanly passage. The ring is seen as feminine.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    men are starting to wear them as women buy them a ring at same time. Many men now have a ring that is added onto or worn on the other finger, or a necklet is bought.

    engagement rings aren't necessary, they were and are a token bond of promise. If the man breaks the promise she keeps the ring, the asset, that is why they are not supposed to be cheap.

    If she breaks it, then he gets it back, if they both break it off, they make a joint decision.

  • 9 years ago

    It depends on the customs.

    In our HINDU religion we have a traditon of exchanging rings.

    my son nd husband wear rings.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    At least this question take me to some feminist rant about how men treated women 1000 years ago.

  • 6 years ago

    that's a good question

  • 9 years ago

    Yes, who cares. If it did happen the next thing you know is that men would be shaving their legs...maybe that is not so far fetched after all.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    9 years ago

    Be glad you didn't call it spam, or you'd be down 10 points, and would have gotten a nasty note from the Yamster.

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