My parents don't want me to have a boyfriend?

Personally, I believe you are too young to be dating, but at the same time I feel your parents are being a little overprotective. 18 isn't really a reasonable age to expect teens to wait for dating. I believe at your age you'd be better off with just being friends (and you can go out and do things together instead of staying at home) and by 16 you should be able to decide if you really want to have a romantic relationship with another, just know that it shouldn't be too serious. What could go wrong is general hurt feeling or the more extreme chance of pregnancy if you were to fool around irresponsibly. There probably isn't anything they aren't telling you except maybe that they did bad stuff when they were younger than 18 and that's why they don't want you to ;) but it's probably just the cultural difference that's scaring them, and they really don't have basis to worry because you seem pretty responsible. I know plenty of people that had relationships at your age, and while they where completely pointless, they were also harmless. my advice would to be his "girlfriend" if you want, but know at your age the only things you should be doing are those friends could do.

Wow. you're so intelligent. and brave cus i would be scared to tell my parents. Im 13 as well and Im going into high school. Im very excited even tho its an all girls school, there's an all boys school literally right next to ours. I say that yes you should focus on your education. I dont think America is influencing you. You shouldnt let anyone influence you even if it's a country.. I think it's just that you're growing up and just want to start dating. That's okay. I can relate to it since we're the same age. Now back to what i was saying. You should focus on your education and I can tell that you're already doing that by being in AP classes. But you just would need to balance education and boyfriend. It isn't hard. Don't become distracted. and like i said before, you are NOT influenced. I dont know you, but you seem way to smart to do something just because everyone else is doing... Also 18 is a bit late.. I mean cause college is way tougher than high school and i assume you'll be going on prom and whatnot where you would need a date. He doesnt necessarily (did i spell that right?) have to be ur bf but it would be nice. lastly, your parents are probably worried that u and this boy will "do innapropriate things" but you said you wouldnt. I actually can't blame them for this one. These days, girls are losing their virginity and frowning upon those who haven't. I know a girl who lost it in 7th grade. SEVENTH. Dont be like this. Tell your parents that if they trust you, they would let you see this boy. Do they trust you? (: Hope i helped!

Well i think your parents are afraid to loose u in this outside world remember this world is a wild world u cannot difference good from bad , remember u r like their little diamond who would want their little diamond got lost ? nobody want their kids to go a stray , every person has their own thinking of life and different lifestyle and the best one when u have ur family values within u , i think u could just wait until u r 16 and talk to dem again, i had my first bf when i was 19 and look i didnt miss out the world , remember everyday u experience and learn something new , at this age boys are exploring and they looking for they prey and ur parents know that , that is why they try to keep u safe from no harm , so no hard feeling for those loving parents u got, and u never know when something can go wrong remember u gotta expect the unexpected , good luck , and continue making proud urself and everyone wit those good grades maybe u will gain a scholarship and u can find a good boy to be ur bf and yall can study together and have a nice time dont look at others look at urself and b proud never compare or try to b like anyone remember ur unique in ur own ways ... hope dis help

A lot of people will probably say, your parents don't want you to date yet because they love and care about you and don't want you to get hurt, which is very true. But you made a valid point that sometimes you need to experience things in order to find out if they are right or wrong for you. It sounds like they're being honest enough with you. Maybe they had bad experiences or have heard negative things about dating young and want to shield you from that pain as much and as long as they can. And although their intentions are good, they can also be holding you back. They are probably also worried about the kind of guy you choose to date. With dating comes falling in love, heartbreak, sex,etc and god knows there's enough stories in the news about abductions, murders, teen pregnancies. You can get hurt but that's a risk you are willing to take. Sometimes dating and love can shift a person's priorities and make them forget who they are/what they're supposed to be doing. But you sound mature enough to know what's right and wrong or what's good for you and that's important. Try to talk to your parents again but it seems like they may not listen. If so, try writing them a letter explaining how you feel in depth. Maybe address some of their fears and write a list of promises you need to keep, if they allow you to have a boyfriend, ex) you'll still maintain your grades,etc. Maybe it would make them feel better if they met the boy and/or his parents but I know that might be awkward. If they still say no in the end and you're willing to, you could just continue seeing him without them knowing. After some time you could eventually tell them and also prove that you can date and be true to yourself at the same time.

Your parents are completely right ! You have no business dating at 13 years old! You have plenty of time to date ! You need to worry about your education and having a boyfriend at this age will thorugh of track of your grades. Trust me I know what I'm talking about. You seem very intelligent but don't do this behind your parents back because sooner or later they will find out.

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB100014240527487041...

here is a link for an essay by Amy Chua, Why Chinese Mothers are Superior. I think you will find it interesting. Your question reminded me of this.

I hope you can make some compromises with your parents, but remember, 13 is really young to date. in our town I would say 16 is normal to start dating. Still at 13 maybe you can enjoy some freedoms or playtime with pals, or a club or school play. Anyway, I think the essay by Amy Chua will seem familiar to you, and you will at least see that you are not alone.

Good luck, honey!

Trust me its in your best interest. They don't want u to get too wrapped up into guys so soon, I was 16 when I asked and still got a NO. lol. But I appreciate my parents so much more for it because all that time I would have spent drooling and being googly eyed over those boys, I actually spent on school work and in my books, got straight A in high school, full academic scholarship to college, and plenty of fine boyfriends during college! Lol

Your Parents want You to further Your Education- FIRST, & worry about Boys- later. :) This is a VERY Common way for Parents to Feel... -But not entirely Realistic. Obviously YOU are very Intelligent. -And at 13, not yet entirely tied Down to Their Beliefs ( or Your Culture ). For NOW; just try to "humor your Parents" as BEST You Can, do well in School- and Manage whatever Relationships You CAN- in whatever Way You Can. Once You finally make it to College, -THEN You'll be "On Your Own..." -To do as you Please. :)

it's a mystery. They probably just want to protect you. But I think your argument is reasonable.

Don't worry I have an Asian parent also and most of them are this way. It's not just a stereotype, it's generally true. I would just ease them onto the idea.

Listen dear,you're a young girl..and at this age you cant understand your parents.. keep in mind that you are less experienced about life than they are,they are worried and concerned for you.for you,it might be easy to say that it wont affect your grades,but slowly it will..

I know it sounds exciting to have your bf and go out and all but sometimes due to love and emotions,you might not realise that you're going way ahead than you ever planned.

You might not realise that you're crossing your limits...

And you'll end up getting pregnant..

And boys are usually less emotional for having feelings,hr might dump you later and you will be distraught.. just listen to them