What do you think about a person who keeps someone waiting for an hour at the pub?

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I've been seeing the lady for a couple of months mostly for drinking together. Last week we agreed to meet at a pub to see some band she liked. Basically, she said she'd meet another friend then arrive at seven. I arrived at ten past seven and waited until eight and she'd never arrived. As I was walking back to the station she called me. So I went back. Her only excuse was 'my friend said it's boring to arrive at seven.' Her friend was quite right.

I am justified in being upset, aren't I? At the moment I'm trying to blow her out. If she contacts me should I tell her my feelings. She is Japanese and they don't communicate very well either.

shortie · Accepted Answer

I'd be livid.  I would want to know why she didn't call me earlier, and I wouldn't have gone back.  I wouldn't want to start a precedent of putting up with her sh!t.

SadSmiles · Answer

Yeah, you have all the right to feel upset, it's never nice to have someone wait at a bar, and certainly is not boring to arrive on time. 

If you still like her and think you might have a chance, I don't think you should tell her....it went well for all the months, right?

? · Answer

Try to be calm, but tell her how you felt having to wait for her.  Tell her you're interested in being with her, but that not showing up at the time you'd arranged isn't okay.  It's one thing if there was an emergency and she apologized, but not showing up at a time she told you, not apologizing, and not even calling to tell you she'd be late in the first place isn't okay.  Make it very clear that you're not okay with this, but don't blow her out.  It would be one thing if she did this a lot, but once isn't enough to attack her.

Curvygreen · Answer

It's a very rude and inconsiderate thing to do.  Tell her firmly but politely that she has behaved badly and that you don't want to be in a relationship with someone who has so little consideration for you.

Blue Sky · Answer

Irregardless of whether her friend was right or wrong she was very inconsiderate to not call and let you know and yes you have every right to be ticked off at her and I hope you told her.

Anonymous · Answer

good lord, you need to re-allocate your priorities.


what do you expect?   it's a pub and those kinds of people to associate with aren't the type to ask for any responsibility.

Anonymous · Answer

yes

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What do you think about a person who keeps someone waiting for an hour at the pub?

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