41 year-old unemployed mom with 4 year-old wants to leave abusive marriage. Where to start?

go to friends move around and then if needed stay in motel. Or if you can stay at home and if he does anything like threat or hit or break or yell call the police.

Get a good lawyer with NO upfront fee and LOW fees. There are many lawyers, you need to call around. Make sure his expertise in divorce and he has a long good history. Get alimony and child support and you will be ok.

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I'm really sorry to hear this I worked in a domestic violence shelter for 3 years and myself was involved in an abusive relationship. It's even worse when you don't have anyone to turn to. If you have a domestic violence shelter there give that a try before you go to your friends, save the friend as a last resort because once you use that favor it may not be available again.

The shelter should be able to give you everything you need for a few months (food, safe place to live, counselors if you want them) and they should be able to walk you through any court procedures that come up and tell will help you get financial aid for an apartment and living expenses.

If you find yourself in a shelter that does not do those things then tell them you want to relocate to a different area (you choose the location) and they should be able to get you transferred to that area and a shelter in that area.

I left an extremely comparable situation in 2004. The state that I moved to gave me a clean identity (new ss# & new call). baby visitation replaced into court docket ordered to be supervised on the county's sheriffs dept (which he in no way took income of). I had to bypass to college finished time in spite of the undeniable fact that it worked out nicely because of the fact i will make my schedule in good shape around my babies schedules. additionally, I won a variety of of scholarship money which I used to "prepay" all of my charges whilst i replaced into taking training. finally I universal a large interest which allowed me to help my young ones. the toughest section is taking the 1st step...that's to bypass away. permit me be attentive to in case you like somebody to talk to. it is accessible and there is quite some components which could help you!

do you have other friends or relative to help while you try to get a job..otherwise you can try a shelter or some non-governmental group to help you out while looking for a job...do your best for your kid...what ever happens don't neglect him/her...good luck....

Search the web for 'womens shelter, (your city)'. Give them a call.